Matron of Honor Zilla

I had that issue, I fired the maid of honor and replaced her with my future sister in law. You should talk to this person and tell her that her behavior is unacceptable and if she doesnt stop then she will no longer be the maid of honor or a bridesmaid.

I have several times, she is his cousin. I choose her because she was my co worker but she introduced us... She told me she had to have and pick her own dress and she tried to make me change the date because it falls on her anniversary weekend... She keeps saying she is going to do better but she keeps getting on my nerves!

I just had a blow up with one of my bridesmaids this morning, I am trying so hard to work with her and be patient but it is not her day, it doesn't get to be about her! I think the best thing too do would be to sit down with her, tell her how you're feeling and try to work it out, I'm sorry you're going through this!

I'm sorry you are too Kayla

My MOH has been driving me crazy. She keeps complaining about the bachelorette party, puts up a fight about what she has to wear on the wedding day. I just told her that I don't want to hear her complaints anymore because it's stressing me out more.

She should be helping me, not stressing me out even more..

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Exactly! I have a Matron and maid of honor and the maid of honor is doing everything and she is just stressing me out

What exactly is she doing? More often than not its really that the brides expectations are too high and not so much that any BP members are being inconsiderate (not that it doesn't happen but its not the norm). Its important to remember that we asked our MOH/BMs because they are they people closest to us and ones we could not imagine our day without, and not so that they will do things for us/helps us plan etc. The MOHs and BMs are only responsible to show up in the agreed upon attire looking presentable and to stand with you.

If she continues to act this way, I would drop her

What has she done?

Yes. My MOH has had drama after drama this year. She was gonna plan my bachelorette and bring her BF (who broke up with her...it had only been a month). She ended up not even going (and was real shady about it). Now she had to change jobs so she hasn't even found & bought her dress yet. Arg.

View Quoted Comment She wanted me to change my date because it’s to close to her anniversary, she wanted to pick her own dress, she never replies to group text or attends meetings and I practically have to do what she wants

View Quoted Comment She wanted me to change my date because it’s to close to her anniversary, she wanted to pick her own dress, she never replies to group text or attends meetings and I practically have to do what she wants

View Quoted Comment Oh wow... sure that’s frustrating

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OK so first, she doesn't have to attend meetings or reply to group texts. She has to show up in her dress on your wedding day. You don't have to change your date or do what she says. That's ridiculous. You need to put your foot down and let her know that it is your wedding and you'll do things your way. If she can't agree to stop then let her know that she is welcome to attend as a guest. Sidebar: I'll just mention that then she can wear whatever dress she wants!! LOL

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Well the date thing is a little absurd, thats something she shouldn't have asked you. But for the dress - did you consult your bridemaids as far as the budget and comfort they would feel in the dress? If i was a bridesmaid and I had an issue - either with the price or not feeling comfortable I would hope that the bride, being my friend would listen to my concerns, especially if they were put to her respectfully. Also - what meetings doe she have to attend? She is a MOH, not a vice president of a company. There are no meetings in regards to being a bridesmaid. While the date thing is odd, it does some that you are possibly expecting more out of this then you should be. People have their own lives and things going on. That doesn't stop because you asked them to be in your wedding.

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None of you had wedding party meetings? It is to make sure that everyone is on the same page and for dates and planning. Most if this is taken care of through group text which she never responds to. The price of the dress is not a problem. She just doesn't like any of the ones I have picked. She wants to wear a color that will not only stand out from the rest of the party but she wants to outstand me as well. I told her dress could be different but not so far off. At the en of the day I thought this was my day and things were to my likeing. Everyone else is supportive and giving me no problems so I know I am not the zilla in this situation.

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If she is the matron of honor why doesn't she? she needs to know deadlines and dates. No one is picked and then just shows up the date of the wedding

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But, knowing the deadlines and dates for her dress doesn't require a meeting. Your bridal party isn't responsible for planning. Its you and your FHs wedding. People's lives don't stop just because we are getting married. I'm sorry but, I think maybe your expectations are too high.

View Quoted Comment I texted all my girls any info they needed separately, had no meetings, and they all managed to still be successful at getting a dress and being present at the wedding. Group texts and wedding party meetings aren’t necessary parts of being in a wedding.

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I didn't ask anyone to plan anything... I am just an organized person. I don't want anyone to plan anything for me but if you are supposed to be my matron of honor communication is a must!