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Cassandra
Just Said Yes October 2019

Matron of Honor Situation-thank you card

Cassandra, on August 25, 2019 at 12:12 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 12
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Do a send a thank you card to my ex-matron of honor for a bridal shower gift? We had a major falling out which lead to her last-minute backing out of standing up on our wedding day. As a write others thank you cards, I have mixed feelings about doing so but looking for some advice on this tough matter.


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Latest activity by Julie, on August 26, 2019 at 10:30 AM
  • Selena
    Super September 2019
    Selena ·
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    Yes, always send a thank you. If you want to repair the friendship, mention that if you don't, send the card and be done with it.
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  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
    Chandra ·
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    I would still send the card.
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  • Samantha
    VIP October 2020
    Samantha ·
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    Send her the card. Even if the friendship is over, it’s the appropriate thing to do.
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  • Yoice
    VIP March 2019
    Yoice ·
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    I think is polite to still send a thank you card.
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  • N
    Master January 2015
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    I would also say send the card. Friendship or not, common courtesy goes a long way.
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  • Keri
    Expert November 2019
    Keri ·
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    Still thank her for the gift. It's the polite thing to do.

    While she isn't standing up, is she still coming as a guest?

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  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    Yes it’s the right thing to do.
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  • Andrea
    Super May 2020
    Andrea ·
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    Yes, send the card, it’s definitely the right thing to do. Sending a “thank you” won’t make the situation worse, but not sending one could.
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  • Vicky
    VIP January 2020
    Vicky ·
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    Yes, you should still send her a thank you card for the present she sent, or return the present itself (but I recommend the thank you card).

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  • Cathy
    Devoted October 2019
    Cathy ·
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    Following. I have a similar situation, although it was for a bridesmaid who didn't do anything at all. I still have her gift, which I don't even know if I should give to her. She's not even going to attend the wedding--she's going to her boyfriend's tradeshow instead.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    I can’t think of any situation where it’s acceptable not to thank someone for a gift.
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  • Julie
    Dedicated February 2020
    Julie ·
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    If she got you a gift, you send a thank you card. Simple as that.

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