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Lindsey
Beginner October 2020

Matron of Honor Rant

Lindsey, on October 7, 2020 at 3:17 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 7
I just got married this past Saturday and everything was perfect except My Matron of Honor. She has given me problems from the being of wedding planning. I first had to buy her bridesmaid dress cuz she was not working due to COVID and money was tight, after I did, it dawned on me that she was probably making more than me while I still worked in Healthcare during covid and she got to be at home collecting an each $600 a week. I figured no biggie, she will pay me back. Fast forward to July and I had planned my bachelorette party. Everyone knew about it for at least 2 months. She promised she was going to come. She said she would get to the cottage around 4. Well it got to be about 5 and she wasn't there. Getting worried about her i contacted her and she told me she had a lot going on and just couldn't come. I told her she probably needed a little get away and I wanted her to come. Never heard anything back. Everyone said I should dismiss her from the wedding I thought about it and just couldn't do that. Again, Fast forward to the day right before my wedding I get a text from her that morning saying she might not be able to make it. I spent the Friday before my wedding in tears knowing I made a mistake to pick her as my matron of honor. She did finally decide to come. She came with a friend who I never met before and had no idea who she was. I told her the rehersal dinner was just for the bridal party and their significant others. Well look who comes with her to the dinner, her friend who I still don't know. So we paid for dinner and her drinks after I clearly told my matron of honor that she technically wasn't invited. Her friend also came to the wedding and reception and after all that I still don't even know who she is. When my matron of honor was going back to her room for the night. She told me she had to give me my gift still and should would reach out to me in the morning before she left to give it to me since we live like 9 hrs away and don't know when we will see eachother again. I never heard anything from her! So I'm assuming she never even had a gift for me. Than my husband and I were opening cards and I got to her card. Hoping that at least $100 bucks that she owed me for the dress was in there. There was nothing in there!! You think she could of at least gave me the money for the dress or at least give some money from her friend for all the free meals and booze she got and she never was invited!! Sorry to rant but I'm just so frustrated with her!! I want to talk to her about it but don't know the right way to go about it.

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Latest activity by Jasmine, on October 8, 2020 at 12:35 PM
  • Bo Miller
    Expert December 2020
    Bo Miller ·
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    Oh my! I would be frustrated too if I was you especially since she brought someone random to the rehearsal and the wedding! That is in no way acceptable!

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  • M
    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    That's a lot of built up frustration. I wouldn't do anything for now. Let yourself cool down a bit and then decide if you still want to be friends with her or not. If you don't, then there is nothing at all to do. If you do want to repair/preserve the relationship then I would reach out to her for a lunch or coffee date and be open about how your feelings are hurt. Discuss how you can move past the hurts together.

    No matter what you decide to do, I would try to forget about her ever paying you back for her bridesmaid dress. Did she know it was a loan not a gift? Has she found a new job yet? In any case, loaning money to friends always comes with risks and now you know to never loan her money again.

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  • Katie
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    Katie ·
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    I just feel sorry that this is what you're still focusing on after the wedding has passed. Enjoy your marriage, there's nothing you can do except upset yourself more by stewing over the one negative part of your day.

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  • Laurie
    Dedicated August 2020
    Laurie ·
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    I'd be pissed too....
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  • B
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    Barbara ·
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    Well, she wins the prize for worst friend ever and worst MOH ever. There are so many things wrong here I don't know where to start. If it were I, I'd try very hard to put it behind me and move on. Focus on your husband and the wonderful parts of the day. Take the high road and give up on getting reimbursed for her expenses, and for getting any kind of apology for her many faux pas. And maybe get her photoshopped out of your pictures. OK, kidding, sort of!

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  • Vicky
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    Vicky ·
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    Is she still unemployed?

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  • Jasmine
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    Jasmine ·
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    This is why it so ok to let people out of your wedding party. She probably didn’t want to be the MOH anyway if she was calling to cancel on you the day before. Oh well it’s over now, don’t stress
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