We are having a small ceremony and a small reception- less than 40. At this point it’s just family. My soon to be mother in law has been riding my tail about getting matching masks, not doing a charcuterie board, making sure people are aware of wearing masks outside— etc. it’s getting really excessive.. like everyday she’s bringing it up. We are a week out and if I get thrown another thing with planning like she’s suggesting I’m going to flip my lid. We went from 120 to 40 guests, changed our reception location to an outside lodge, changed the catering to serving rather than buffet— we have definitely made adjustments for the pandemic. But it is not enough for her and I am really getting super annoyed with her. Please give me advice! Is anyone dealing with this? How have you dealt with it?
Becoming selectively deaf helps. When she brings up things discussed and settled before, ignore it. If she calls you on it, say, we have planned all things out, and I am not discussing it any more. And don't. There is no point in a fight, and if she persists like a young kid, you have to set some limits and cut her off.
She may be hyper-nervous, I know I was before our wedding. I had to explain to my partner it was my anxiety and I just needed to go over things alot - I understand the annoyance of it to you, if you don't share her anxiety though.
In the end, I was happy we were so over cautious - we are two weeks out and we have had one guest who tested positive this week (asymptomatic). We can't be sure if no one else is ill, as no one is feeling unwell - he was tested through his work. I'd feel *awful* if someone was sick or in the hospital on our account. Caution is wise - but maybe helping your FMIL if she's panicking. Tell her she can be on mask police or something. 😉 Best of luck!
We've created masks for our guests and are making it optional for each guest. The state says masks are required inside or outside in public spaces, but there have been several news articles that state that they are not being as sticklers with weddings. (YAY)... People / Guests will have their own fears (maybe) about covid, I'd trust them to wear masks. It sounds like you've done everything on your end, now you just have to trust everyone else does their part.
Like the first post said, follow the selective hearing rule, and when she brings it up, ignore it and change the subject quickly.
Congratulations on your wedding, I know it will be perfect.
I agree with the other person that said let her buy the masks if she wants. Make it optional for people if they want to wear them. You aren’t going to be able to force people yo wear them outside nor should you buy they will be available for those that want them. Good luck and Congratulations!!
Totally been there before our August wedding!!! Luckily it was not my MIL, but in my opinion, no one should be bothering the bride the week of wedding unless it is to ask how they can help. My phone was blowing up and we were working on final details for our last minute ceremony change 😬 same as you, outdoor ceremony and reception, all regulations followed, etc. I only answered texts and calls from my parents and bridal party. If it helps, no one got covid at our wedding ❤️
Let her buy the masks, like others have mentioned. Our wedding is also outside in November. We arent requiring guests to wear masks but they are more than welcome to and we will have some available if people forget or change their mind.