Married under 25

It’s different for everyone. I try to be optimistic and as long as you and your fiancé are emotionally, mentally and financially stable, then go for it.
Statistics do say that people who marry between the ages of 28 and 32 are less likely to get divorced in the long run, but you have to evaluate the reasons.

I feel like it has a lot to do with finances more than anything. Wedding are expensive, but so is student debt, a home, etc. I feel like most people wait longer to have those things finished because it can also be a very stressful time juggling a lot. But, like its mentioned above everyone is different, moves at different paces and dives in at different times. It all comes down to the couple and your wants/needs and communication skills!

I would just encourage you to really examine your love and relationship. Sometimes, younger folks can feel so in love that they are blinded by the realities of what it takes to have a real marriage outside of love. Meaning they aren’t equipped to handle finances and a life long commitment. Make sure you’re not marrying just because you’re head over heels and that you feel very confident in your ability to marry and stay married when love will take more effort (through sickness and health, finance troubles, maturing and growing through the years.) wish you the best.

I agree with others. Also you won't be the same people 10 years from now. I am not the same person 10 years ago esp when I was 18. Everyone is different true but really think about things especially finances because that can be a stressor no matter the age.

One of my friends from high school married at 19. He knew she was the one the moment they met, and they’re still together almost 20 years later.


That being said, ask yourself why now? Like my fh and I are getting married sooner so we could possibly have a family. Are you moving in together? Have you always known each other was the one? Are one of you military and someone is moving?

I was 18 when I got married- the first time. And have a beautiful 21- almost 22yo, son out of it.


It takes ALOT of work, simply because you aren’t, usually, established in a career or school, financially or where you are going to live. That can put A lot of stress on a relationship and when you are young you don’t always have the best ways to cope with those types of demands and stressors.
That said, if you two Love each other and have been together awhile- I see no reason why you shouldn’t get married. Especially if the families all get along and are for it....

View Quoted Comment That's something I always talk about. I know me and him won't be the same person ten years from now. That's why we adapt to the changes we each make. We are both different people from when we started dating. We've made it through the changes and supported each other. I'm working on my career and he's supporting every choice I make and vice versa. I've always thought about how different we will be in ten years and we talk about it. But like the changes we made since we have been together, we will adapt to the new people we have become

View Quoted Comment I would love a family, but not until I finish college. We are both planning on moving somewhere together for better opportunities in my career. But it has nothing to do with my choice to get married.

I'm a firm believer that rather than age, emotional and financial maturity are the key indicators of whether people are ready to marry. Have you and your fiance lived on your own and supported yourselves? Are you financially stable, with enough to cover all your regular bills and at least a small emergency reserve? Do you know how to maintain your own home/apartment and vehicles? Do you budget, pay bills, taxes, etc. in a responsible manner? Do you deal with conflict in a constructive way (it's inevitable in any on-going relationship, so you have to know how to deal with it)? What are your long term goals and values, and are they compatible? We married when I was 27 and H was 35 -- that was not too early for us. Our daughter married her high school sweetheart at the beginning of this year. They'd been an exclusive couple for 8 years -- since they were 16 -- and they were sure they would eventually get married from about the time they were 18, BUT they knew they weren't ready yet. So, they both went to college and worked part-time jobs covering many of their expenses and both saving everything they could, they graduated and then got engaged. She then earned a professional certification for her field and he earned a graduate degree, they worked full-time jobs, lived together and co-managed both their household responsibilities and their finances. When it was clear they were ready, they got married at 24. During those 8 years, they grew, matured, and changed a LOT. There was never a question about whether they loved each other, but they knew they had a lot to accomplish before they were ready to be a married couple with all that entails. Good luck to you!

So my brother and his wife got married when they were 19 & 18. Nobody in our family really felt they were ready for it (they knew each other all of 2 months before getting married).
My dad tried to sit them down and say we think you should wait until you finish school and have more financial independence and stability. They ignored him and proceeded with throwing together a wedding.
I know he regrets a lot about it. When they were expecting their second kid, he told me if there weren't kids involved, he would have probably left her. They just celebrated 10 years but he also sold me a few months ago he was strongly considering a trial separation from her. He's just not happy in the marriage.
That said, I dont know how long you and your SO have been together, but like others have said, I think young marriages can be successful if you're ready and willing to face huge hurdles TOGETHER and grow with your spouse through them all. If you can both financially provide for yourselves (even if it's not as grand a lifestyle as you might like), then I say there's nothing wrong it it.

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If you feel strongly about marrying him then do it. I would wonder if you are questioning that since you asked on a public forum. Please do not take this as me being rude rather straight forward. You either will or will not adapt. As someone said it is rare that young marriages work out (I have seen that first hand) but some do. You two may be the two that makes it and that is awesome. You two need to do what is best for you two and do not worry about others. If you both really want to be married then go for it. I would suggest make smart financial decisions and try to grow together. Good luck.

View Quoted Comment Finances was one of the first things we talked about before we even moved in together. We have always had a planned budget. I work he's switching jobs next month for a higher full time position. I always heard finances were one od the biggest reasons people get divorced so I wanted to make sure we won't over that well before we discussed marriage. And thank you so much for wishing me luck

My FH's grandparents got married when they were about 19 yrs old and they stayed very happily together until the grandpa passed away at eighty something. His aunt got married when she was 16, his husband at the time was 18. Now that they are in their 60s, they're still the happiest couple in the big family. I guess it all boils down to whether you are absolutely sure that he's the one

We will be 24 by the time we get married, but we have also been dating for 6 years so I think it all just depends on your financial, emotional, and relational stability as a couple. The age means less than the aspects and circumstances of the relationship I think

Based on experience, I am so glad I waited and didn't marry the guy I was with at your age. He was a mess, but I thought it was love. People change and continue to change throughout life based on situations we are thrown into.


I would never tell you not to marry young because it has worked for people! Make sure you are emotionally stable, financially stable and know how to communicate. I would read the 5 love languages and really let that help you learn eachother. Discuss finances, religion, education, housing and more. They aren't always fun topics but this will allow you to see if you both truly can communicate and compromise. Good luck to the both of you!

I got married for the first time when I was 18 and was married to him for 13 years. My biggest advice for you is to understand that you will change a lot in your 20s. I don't think there's anything wrong with getting married young but do understand you'll be facing a lot of challenges. Surround yourself with supportive people and please do pre-marital counseling!

My Fiance and I met when he was 19 and I was just about 21. We'll be 22 and 24 when we get married. We've been ready to get married for a while, but we wanted to have a strong foundation to establish our marriage upon. Specifically, we wanted to both have graduated college and both have full-time jobs. I graduated in May of 2019 and He'll be graduating next week. I have a full-time salaried job and he'll be starting his in January. We're getting married in July.

I highly recommend being patient. Marriage is a life-long journey and (in my opinion, I can't speak for everyone, as everyone has their own story) it's important to have a few foundational life stages under your belt. It's also important to see how the other person acts through those life stages. We both know how the other person handles stress, finances, loss of a loved one, new environments and situations, new jobs, and difficult family situations.

I had dated a guy for 3 years when I was 20 and it took me those three years and a few life experiences to realize that he and I were on very different life paths and wanted very different things. I had definitely though about marrying him, but I am very glad I didn't. I was just scared of being alone, and of all of the uncertainty that comes with a breakup.

At the end of the day, it's your journey and your story. I know a few couples who got married young and are still together.

Age is just a number, but maturity and place in life is important. My grandparents got married at 19/24 and have been happily married over 60 years and my parents got married at 31/30 and are divorced.


My husband and I got engaged at 21 and 23 and we got married at 22/24. So we are pretty young. However, we were both out of college, both had steady full time jobs, and were financially independent and ready to live on our own. If that were not the case, I don’t think it would have been smart to get married. Some people are financially independent and stable in a career at 18 or 19 and if that’s the case good for you! But other people are dependent on their parents until their mid 20s. Nothing is wrong with either... but I would just advise not to get married until you’re actually able to live on your own.

I’m 20 getting married in 11 days, we got engaged after dating for almost a year. my Fiancé is 22. It is hard being in school but everyone young i’ve talked to have been all for it as long as you’re established as a human and the important things are things neither of you will change on throughout your life. if you have core similarities and your values and standards are the same you can make it work, just understand it’s not all sunshine and rainbows haha but in all seriousness you and your fiancé know what’s best for y’all better than anyone else does, and the gut feeling rarely leads you astray. i guess what i’m trying to say is if you’re thinking realistically about it all and know what you’re doing and you aren’t getting married off of like teenage super intense weird emotions you don’t understand like 5 years down the road, you’ll be fine

I think it all boils down to maturity. Marriage is a lifelong commitment. If you're both prepared for this commitment, that's most important. Age can be just a number! I would recommend pre-marital counseling (which is great for any age!) to make sure you're 100% ready for the commitment