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Married but still thinking of the reception

Addy, on July 12, 2019 at 3:20 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 9

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Hi, just got married 1 wk, almost 2 ago. I loved our reception, the colors, the flowers, the music, the food, everything except...I am still sad a lot of the people we invited didn't show. Our religious ceremony had to be private so only our direct family, parents and siblings, and my daughters attended. Half the people were late so were behind our schedule. Also we invited about 150/160 people and only about 80 people attended. It was sad because I couldn't postpone the wedding and some of my family didn't attend because my grandma passed away in April a few days before the original day I had reserved and changed the date. The loss has me heart broken as she couldn't be there and a few family members also did not attend since her passung is still so recent ( 2 months). I felt bummed for my husband as we paid so much and this is his first and only wedding...I feel so sad that so many of my family didn't show up maybe because of our recent loss or maybe because this is my second wedding. I don't think I have ever gone to such a small wedding, or such an empty one, I just can't shake it out of my head and feel sad for him. Our reception was beautiful but I guess seeing so many people did not show made me question if we should have had a reception at all...

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Latest activity by Dezandkamsmom, on July 12, 2019 at 2:35 PM

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Formerbride · on July 12, 2019 at 6:39 AM
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The upside is..you're married. You did what you set out to do! I'm sorry you're feeling down with those that didn't attend but there were still a lot of guests. Focus on those who showed up for you and your husband! Congratulations! These photos are beautiful
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Arielle · on July 12, 2019 at 7:40 AM
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The reception looked beautiful. I'm sorry for your family's loss. And I'd just try to think of the people that showed and the beautiful and timeless memories made that day! Congrats!
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Kelly · on July 12, 2019 at 7:59 AM
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I think loss is hard on people, your grandmother would likely be glad you married the love of your life despite it all.
That being said 80 people is a big wedding to me! So I think you did really well. It looks gorgeous
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Melle · on July 12, 2019 at 9:46 AM
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Your wedding looks gorgeous and hey a celebration is a celebration regardless
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Addy · on July 12, 2019 at 10:03 AM
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Thank-you everyone, my husband says it's all good and he doesn't care if we lost money by having so many guest not attend( rsvping is not common for our family and culture).
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Jessica · on July 12, 2019 at 12:52 PM
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Everything looks gorgeous ♥️ try to be happy about the things that went well
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Tasia · on July 12, 2019 at 1:48 PM
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Where was your reception
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Addy · on July 12, 2019 at 1:51 PM
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Mexico in a border town a few minutes from where I live in Texas
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Dezandkamsmom · on July 12, 2019 at 2:35 PM
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I am right there with you. We got married last week. This was both our 2nd marriage. Our first was 20+ years. I didn't have a wedding the first time, just the courthouse. No gifts, anything. His first wedding was a complete disaster. I always wanted a wedding. Most ladies do. We had the exact same thing happen to us. VERY few actually rsvp'd us, but all in all we had a little over 115 people that was supposed to be there. We were so worried about having enough food we went out 2 days before and spent an extra $300. Anyway, there ended up being around 65 and a few kids I didn't know. I was hurt when I realized the ones who didn't give us the respect or decency just to call & say they were not going to be there. It was mostly about respect. I have major rejection issues as well from my childhood, so I take things personally sometimes. Everyone will not understand this & that is ok. In the moment I didn't stress over it, I truly was enthralled with everything. I didn't notice who wasn't there...until the next day. Man, I felt hurt. I am not thick skinned and I am sensitive. I am the type to always RSVP & am huge about respect and doing what is right. I could not believe that people didn't feel the need to just say "we can't make it". You want people to feel your day is important. We lost money and had tons of food left over.
I am sorry for the loss of your grandmother...my heart goes out to you.
I just wanted to let you know our situations were similar. My husband is the most easy going guy ever...I wish I was more like him and how he lets everything slide off of his back. We have to take it for what it was and enjoy the memories. Congratulations!!!
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