Married before the Wedding

I think we may get legally married 8 days before our wedding so we can have my grandparents wedding anniversary. They’ll be married 71 years. also so we don’t have to pay to have my uncle get his officiant for the day license which is around $500

No we signed ours day of

We are doing this with a shorter timeline. We will be legally married in our favorite city on our anniversary, then celebrating with a handfasting in front of friends and family. I have signed marriage licenses for couples that want the big celebration later on as well. I do recommend that couples are honest about their marital status beforehand though. My brother eloped then had to have the big wedding for the sake of the families. Some were not happy when they later found out they had already been married.

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****% agree with this. It's fine to get married in advance, but it's not fine to call the celebration in front of your friends and family a wedding. Married people can't have weddings. It's also not okay to deceive your friends and family into thinking that what they're attending is your actual, legal, wedding ceremony when it is not.

Yes we are legally married before our actual wedding day. WE got married 07.13.2019 but our actual wedding with family and friends is not until 07.17.2021 so that we are able to have everything we want for our wedding. It did relieve a lot of stress, and I'm so excited for the big wedding that's to come.

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Oh well, thats the problem... It's not about everyone else. Its about just the husband and wife. and somebody is always going to be upset about something. I honestly would not care. A wedding is a wedding no matter if you are married before or not. I know plenty of people who did this and didn't announce until the reception and everyone was surprised. People who are truly happy for you and are for you wouldnt get upset they would be happy you did what was best for you

We had our legal wedding before our religious by about 3 weeks and didn’t really change anything. If the legal day is special for you then go ahead. Just know for all paper and legal documents that would be your wedding date, not the one you celebrate with friends.

View Quoted Comment This. You can’t have a wedding ceremony if you’re already married. A wedding ceremony is what actually gets you married. Whether that’s a sign and go or a short quick ceremony. That’s your wedding. Anything after that is still a celebration of your marriage. But I’ll tell you most people I know who did the quicky marriage planning to do a big party later ended up not doing it. Including me the first time around 😂 I remember the small ceremony my sister had and I convinced her to let me take poses photos with my camera even though she insisted she didn’t need them because they were planning a vow renewal later. 10 years later those are the photos she has from her marriage and that’s it lol. I mean but that’s the point, right? To get married.

View Quoted Comment It’s great that you don’t care, but most people do care about hurting their closest friends and family’s feelings. If you’re old enough and mature enough to get married, you should be old enough and mature enough to own up to it instead of lying and deceiving. A wedding isn’t a wedding when you’re married. That’s illegal. It’s a vow renewal.

My FH and I are getting married before our wedding ceremony too. We will have it at the Justice of Peace. Just so everything can be handle. So I think it's a great idea!! When it comes down to the Social Security Card, Financial Aid, Benefit Package, and etc.