"Marriage Is Just a Piece Of Paper"

It basically is but we wanna do it so we are!! 😂

“Thinking like that is why the divorce rate is so high”
I don’t believe that 50% of marriages don’t work. I believe that 50% of people don’t work. Marriage isn’t a cake walk and it’s taken far too lightly these days. People love to tap out as soon as the going gets tough. Marriage is a serious lifelong commitment and should be respected as such.

That's why I don't understand why people don't do it ahaha. It's like sure there's couples who live together and have kids and build a home and life together that go unmarried but that's kind of why I don't understand why NOT just get married either xD but things work out in different ways for different people

I get that a lot with my history...not going into that here, but I have experience with this. So with that being said, I tell them that marriage truly is just a piece of paper. However, when two people decide that they want to spend the rest of their lives together they do so by making an agreement that the world can see. Not because they want to brag or boast but more so because they are hoping that their love story will be the one that truly shows the world that it is beyond a piece of paper. It is a life long commitment that we didn't take lightly. We committed to ourselves, family, friends, the ever annoying government. We went all the way, not the easy way. The easy way is just staying BF/GF and never really being brave enough to commit to the until death part.

We have friends who have been together for 15 plus years and their only reason is they want to leave at anytime the road gets too rough. Well we don't and we want to make that promise to each other where ours true friends and family will call us out on it and remind us of why we got married to begin with.

Wait until you meet the one, and I will say that because both me and my FH used to say that all the time lol

So is money but you still work for that 💅 haha but in all seriousness, if someone comes at you with that there's not really anything you can say to them that will change their mind. Their mind has already been made up so no use trying to explain really. But to me marriage is more than paper. Marriage is sacrifice and it's ugly and beautiful and scary and rewarding. You have to want it and be willing to work for it.

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I love your response. Best one on here, in my opinion

View Quoted Comment I mean its true!😂 You really dont need to do it to show your commitment to someone. Love lasts without marriage. I do understand ppl do it for religious reasons or because they just want to and it's awesome either way! We are getting married cause its something we wanna do. But I dont think it will necessarily make your relationship better or stronger!

View Quoted Comment I have met the one and we are getting married! But I still believe for the most part it's just paper and letting the government into your relationship. It shouldn't make my relationship any better. We should be just as strong and committed without marriage. And I'd say we are.

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Why do you agree with the phrase?

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"I don’t believe that 50% of marriages don’t work. I believe that 50% of people don’t work."

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I'm not sure I understand what you're saying. Are you saying that since marriage is just a piece of paper then why not just get married?

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"They are hoping that their love story will be the one that truly shows the world that it is beyond a piece of paper."

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Hmmm...good point.

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I agree that a lot of people who say that already have their minds made up.

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I agree that love can last without marriage.

So, I was just reading that the 50% divorce rate is based on statistics from the 70s and the 80s, and the reality is closer to 15% today? (Mostly because of when no-fault divorce became law, and the changing demographics of who gets married when.)

As for the original question:

Um... yes and no?

For the purposes of the government, it's just a piece of paper. If you're in a committed relationship, you know it, and you don't *need* the paper. For the legal benefits, you do, but you in the relationship know where you stand.

And, at the same time, there is something very profound about standing up in front of your community and making it VERY clear that you are united and paired.

View Quoted Comment I tried to explain my POV in other comments if you would like to read those too. But technically speaking it is a piece of paper. It's a contract. And me and my fiance are gonna enter into the contact of marriage for multiple reasons. But in the end I feel like it doesnt really make our relationship more real or more likely to last. It doesnt make me love him anymore or any less. Ya know? Its us as a couple who will make the relationship last.

It was one of the first things my sister's boyfriend said to me after I got engaged: Why are you getting married? Mind you, my sister is divorced, and her boyfriend is her ex-husband's former best friend. He is completely anti-marriage. Even my mother, who knows I've wanted to get married since I was very young, asked why we couldn't just date each other. I've waited a long time to find the perfect guy for me, and I want to be his wife. I don't believe in living together, and neither does he, even though I'll be his third wife. He's older and wiser now, and we're having a long engagement to save money and so I can be sure. But I knew on our second date that he was the one, and I love him more every day.