March 29 Brides...what Are You Doing?

Honestly, regardless of whether or not vendors have cancelled, public health and safety is paramount over anyone's wedding. In fact, I'm a professional in the wedding industry, and I've just advised all my brides and grooms to cancel or postpone their March and April weddings, and with everything that's just now come into effect, May weddings as well. We're about 10-14 days behind Italy when it comes to the virus and their initial casual feelings about the virus have now lead to a country-wide lockdown and hundreds of deaths. Contact between people (even those feeling totally fine) can spread the virus on to people who are at risk (immunocompromised in some way) super quickly, even if it's a super low number of people, and in order to give medical professionals an opportunity to get a handle on things, staying home and not going to any non-essential appointments or outings is pertinent. They're closing down restaurants, bars, and theaters, and people get much closer (hugging, celebrating, sitting in aisles/pews) to each other at weddings than they do at those places.

I'm very sorry this is happening during what's supposed to be a joyful time for you--it's definitely been frustrating for brides and grooms getting married anytime soon. Again, I'd strongly suggest postponing.

I think you should do what is going to make you and your FH the happiest! If your family and guests are still planning on coming and supporting you then go for it!

View Quoted Comment

I actually plan tradeshows and events for my company, and have for the last 17 years.

My company has postponed every event that we host and attend due to corona virus, so I am very very aware of the threats of what is going on. Our international division is in Bologna, so I see and discuss it with them daily.

We gave very careful thought to what we wanted to do, and we have family members who are not coming due to compromised immune systems. We made sure to let everyone know that it is their decision of what they want to do, because our first concern is their health and safety, and continue to do so every day.

Whether we have just the two of us and an officiant or everyone who wants to attend, it is their choice, not ours...of course we wish everyone to be there who wants to be, but we are not asking anyone to come who is not comfortable. We wanted to move forward to celebrate us.

View Quoted Comment

That's how we feel.

We have masks for guests if they want them, I have watched our venue owner have her staff clean (it's hospital quality), and we are both comfortable after long discussions of this situation.

View Quoted Comment Then girl go for it! I’ve learned on here people just want others to go through what they’re going through, constantly disregarding and discrediting emotions... which your feelings are valid!


If going through with your wedding works for you then do it! At the end of the day, it’s about the marriage!

For as small as your party is I say go for it. Our city is just advising you keep things 50 ppl or less. I'm not sure where you are having it but if they're still letting you and you feel comfortable go for it.

View Quoted Comment Is your venue owner requiring the staff to work even if they are concerned about their safety at this event? Do the staff have health insurance? Do they have paid leave from work if they get exposed to the virus while cleaning up after your wedding?

View Quoted Comment The staff is the owner and her husband. She’s the owner and photographer, and her husband is the officiant.
In my conversations with her she says that both of them are fine with it.

View Quoted Comment We’re having it on the porch of a 1920’s restored house here in Arizona.
We do have a contingency plan of getting married in one of our local parks here should the venue owner decide to close. The staff is only herself and her husband, as she’s the owner and photographer, and he is the officiant.
Worst case I have 2 friends who have agreed to take in those 2 roles for our contingency plans.