Help! My family is Vietnamese and my fiance's family is American. Ongoing issues about what Vietnamese traditions are necessary as part of the wedding and causing a lot of strife before the wedding. My mother states that these are mandatory and their obligation as parents to respect and thank the family. My fiance thinks it will take too much time and take the attention away from us. Please help if you have any input on the following issues.
1) Should we greet all the guests and take a photo with them at the cocktail hour? Is it necessary to send them each a copy of the photo after the wedding?
2) My mother says they need to make a quick speech thanking everyone and apologize if they have slighted/offended anyone in any way. Fiance wants to cut the speeches from the parents.
3) My mother says it is expected and an obligation that (both) pairs of parents go WITH the bride and groom to each table to personally thank the guests. Fiance's parents don't want to do this, and fiance doesn't want my parents to come with us at all.
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