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Man of Honor

Chloe, on August 18, 2021 at 9:32 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 3

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So, I've asked my best friend to be my Man of Honor and he agreed. Both me and FH have no real bridal party to speak of, just him and the Best Man (bridal parties are very uncommon where I come from). Let's call him James. Pretty sure James is terrorising the girls in the bachelorette WhatsApp group right at this very moment...

He says that he wants to be involved more during the planning and on the day of the wedding, but I'm honestly struggling a little... What tasks can I give him? He obviously won't help choose my dress or get ready on the day, he has no interest in that and I wouldn't ask. I've already asked him to take over the coordination of speeches and any games/ideas that the guests may have (because he's good at telling people no

) and he has thrown himself into organising my bachelorette weekend like a madman, even though it will be 9 girls and him as a lone guy. I don't want to tell him that I don't need his help, because he offered and I don't wish to rebuff him, but at the same time I want him to have fun and be able to relax. Have any of you been in this situation before? Any ideas for small tasks that he might enjoy, something that won't cost him too much time or overburden him? Something fun? I know that he's a grown up man and can decide if he wants to do something or not, but at the same time I want him to be able to enjoy himself.

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Latest activity by Maddie, on August 18, 2021 at 7:40 PM

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Maggie · on August 18, 2021 at 12:05 PM
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I genuinely don't think there IS anything wrong with saying there is nothing you need help with and you just want him to relax and have fun. It was nice of him to offer but I doubt you will hurt his feelings by telling him honestly that it's all covered.
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Melinda · on August 18, 2021 at 12:08 PM
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I have a Man of Honor and he will absolutely be getting ready and hanging out with me the day of since he's my best friend and will keep me in line!
Other than that holding my flowers at the alter, holding my vows, and giving a speech.
As far as planning? I'll probably have him help me delegate during the setup of the space, make sure the centerpieces are correct, etc.
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Maddie · on August 18, 2021 at 7:40 PM
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I have a man of honor too and I've had to reel him in several times because I am very much not looking to blow 10k on decorations or have a bachelorette party >_>. There honestly isn't a lot for him to do because I'm trying to have a very fuss-free, non-traditional wedding. I did take him dress shopping and he is taking me to a spa instead of organizing a bachelorette party. We will also probably be together while I get ready since his boyfriend is doing my HMU. It's his personality though, and he will take control if I let him and then he won't have fun and I will want to strangle him - everyone loses.
Just tell him. you want him to relax and if anything comes up, you will ask him for help. People of Honor don't have that much to do normally - do they?
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