Mama drama!

Ugh YES aha I had moments with both moms about my wedding that were so frustrsting. People are gonna be opinionated about your wedding regardless. Stick to your guns!

Honestly, the best thing to do is just to stop talking to her about the wedding entirely. If she's not going to act like an adult, she doesn't get included. If she asks for details, a vague answer or a "we're not sure yet--hey, how's that friend of yours doing?" is the best way to go about things.

Don't loop her in. For outrageous requests or demands, "no" is a complete sentence. You can also say, "we'll think about that," then never bring it up again, or simply, "that's not going to work for us/our reception flow/our budget/etc."

View Quoted Comment I have been, also been biting my tounge so hard to not tell my mother off lol

View Quoted Comment Yea haha that’s perfect, assertive not aggressive lol

View Quoted Comment I feel ya. With my mother in law I had to firmly say “I don’t want that” but also be respectful to her. It’s hard because you don’t want to be mean but also wanna stand your ground

My mom has had her moments - she didn't want my dad near her and a couple of other things - but she's really been pretty good. I think moms just start wanting everything to go right, on both sides of the couple. But you're not alone! It'll beok.

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Yes, exactly!

Yes! My mom as well! But she is paying for something, my wedding dress. She is mostly the reason I changed it.. but I like my new one better 😊 and she has to pay more for it 😂. I just try to ignore her lol. Now that we are more into planning, I seem to be doing a lot of stuff opposite of what she would like me to do. Good luck!

Just practice saying, “that’s not going to work for us.” You don’t have to justify it. It’s your wedding. She’s had hers.

Omg yes. My mil is constantly complaining about how much we are spending. Constantly comparing my $10000 to her $10000 back in the day. They haven't offered to help either. My parents are helping us. No price is right for her. She wants everything to cost pennies. My fiancé and I just stick to our guns and ignore her comments. He has told her a couple of times to shut up about the prices.

View Quoted Comment Excellent advice !

I’m dealing with drama as well, I get it. I would just drop her from the topic of the wedding. If she isn’t paying for any of it she has no say. Plan your wedding to what you and your fiancé wants. If she tries to bring it up just nicely tell her it’s your wedding, your day, your way. She had her time.

View Quoted Comment Ugh theyre ridiculous sometimes! She gives me anxiety

Babe, are you sure we arent' sisters? Your mother sounds an aweful lot like my mother.....so yeah, I completly get where you're coming from!! I got a guilt trip message the other day about how I don't 'include' her in wedding planning......when I've been inviting her to floral appointments/dress shopping/etc! So now when I send her things {check out my post on the MOB Drama of Favors!!} all she does is complain about how SHE would prefer it some other way!!!

Welcome to the Fam,

View Quoted Comment Yupppp! U should have seeen and heard the texts n phone call because i went solo dress shopping and also if i say i dont want this grand entrance as the new couple for my reception because im socially awkward orrr that shes slightly upset that im not doing a dance with her?! This history of our relationship is trash so the fact that she even has invite is crazy ahahah

If she is so negative about everything then she is welcome not to come

And if we speak seriously, I think you need to have an open and honest discussion for you to express your feelings- and, yes, make a statement: either she lets your wedding be yours or she is free to skip it.

I feel for you. My wedding ruined what little of a relationship I had with my mom. She ALSO seemed to think it was her day. She even wore a dress that made her look like the bridesmaids because she preferred their color/dress style.

View Quoted Comment Omg! No joke i have been saying i bet my mother will end up with a matching dresss as welll! Omggg!!!

I think that wedding bring out the best AND worst in everyone lol. Looks like other posters are giving you some good advise hopefully your mom gets the hint!!

I told my mom who sounds just like yours that my FH and I were prepared to pay for the whole wedding ourselves specifically so it would be exactly what we want and we didn’t want to hear anything was unnecessary or too expensive. The conversation was prompted after she suggested we get married where she did at a house on my step dads property (we had always envisioned a ranch and a barn with chandeliers) and when I mentioned videography she said we should just have someone use a cellphone. You may have to kinda firm and set boundaries instead of just not including her because if she’s anything like my mom she’ll catch on to being excluded and make things 10x worse to get the attention back on her. Best of luck to you!!