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Super August 2019

Male Photographer and getting ready

Saydee, on June 7, 2018 at 10:02 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 16
Is anyone having a male photographer and taking shots of getting ready? Normally I wouldn't have a problem with it but my photographer also happens to be my boss, and is VERY conservative (religious beliefs). We have done things outside of work like me visiting his house and family with my kids, and he has been my boss for 4 years and I trust him. I just don't know if I should ask him, or how to ask him. Or should I just do them with our cell phones and just leave the ceremony, reception and other photos to him. Has anyone managed this? Like do I just wear covered up clothing, and then ask him in once I have my dress on? It's gonna be super hot outside so we were thinking of wearing robes after we get to venue to get ready, but we'll probably change this to short sleeve button down. I just don't think they will look as nice.

Any thoughts?

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Latest activity by earias, on June 7, 2018 at 2:29 PM
  • LB
    Champion November 2016
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    Is your boss a professional photographer? If so, I'm sure he's used to doing getting ready shots...

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  • Erika
    Devoted August 2018
    Erika ·
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    My photographer is a male, and all of us girls will be in robes. Honestly, I am not that concerned at all.


    Obviously he won't be in the room when we are physically naked and actually getting changed Smiley xd

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  • C
    Super August 2017
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    Even if it was just ladies I wouldn’t think you’d want to be walking around showing your stuff. Put your dress on so you’re covered and have him come in for pics of your mom or MOH zipping/buttoning you up. And yes if he’s a professional he should be used to this.
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  • Pegs
    VIP July 2018
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    Yeah, I'm not concerned about it. My photographer is a guy as well. Basically, if you tell him when to photograph you, you eliminate any issues. He obviously won't be there when you're naked, but when you apply makeup or are doing your hair, etc.

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    He is, but it's not his primary business focus, it's a secondary service we offer. We work in web and graphic design however he does photography for business clients, and has done the weddings of his family. I see his work often and discussed giving him a list of shots I wanted too
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  • Mrs. H
    Master September 2019
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    Religious or not, as a professional photographer, second job or otherwise, I'm sure he has seen it all, including "getting ready" shots.

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  • jerzgrlnmd
    Expert May 2018
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    Mine was a man and I was in pjs and a robe in front of him. Then I put my dress on in the bathroom and I came out. If he is a professional, he should be used to this type of thing.

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    His photography service he offers isn't marketed for weddings, but he does have experience. I'm just being considerate of his religious beliefs as well as the fact I have to work with him. I think it's moreso me overthinking because this is very personal, and I wasn't sure how the getting ready shots are set up
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  • NVV2B
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    I would ask him to leave the room, then you and your BMs can put your dresses on, and then invite him back in for your mom to zip you up, lace you up, button you up, etc. That way you are covered, but you still get some shot of you "getting into" your gown.

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  • Jennifer
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    We had a male photographer at my best friends wedding and he excused himself when it got down to putting the brides dress on. He came back in after & did some shots with us zipping her up, putting her jewelry on, and fixing her dress. The pro's know what to do, I think you will be fine.

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    Thanks! The only wedding I was in, I was too young to pay attention to the Photographer, so I wasn't sure how this was done. It's simple so idk why I didn't think of this
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  • DC Wife 10.27.18
    Master October 2018
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    Do the basis shots, detail shots then ask him to leave while you put your dress on. I'm sure he has done this before. He is your vendor so you should feel comfortable having frank conversations with him.

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  • MrsD
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    I was in a wedding last year with 2 male photographers. We got ready from 9 AM - 3 PM. The photographers arrived around 2 PM to take getting ready pictures of the guys & the girls. When he came into the bridal suite, we were in our robes but nothing was showing or inappropriate. He took some posed pictures then left, we put on the bride's dress and he came back in after it was on to show pictures of us buttoning it up (it had a corset). So he took "getting ready" photos but more ones of the bride's makeup and hair being done and us sitting around eating.

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  • Katherine
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    I have a male photographer and I definitely want getting ready pictures. He has an assistant who I think is a woman, so I think she might take over for lots of the getting ready stuff while he checks on the groomsmen.


    Even if not, he's a professional and I won't be running around in my underpants. Any time I'm too stripped down, I'll be in the bathroom and then I'll step out for the zip-up and all that.

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  • Daria
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    Mine is a man, but the second shooter is a lady. He will do the guys getting ready pics, and she will be with us.

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  • earias
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    You don't actually get undressed in front of the photographer for the "getting ready" pictures even if it was a woman. You are usually in your "getting ready" attire - a robe, pjs, button up/leggings, etc. and then when it is time to put your dress on the photographer leaves or you go in a separate room depending on how your room is set up. I had a bridal suite with a large bathroom that I went into with one of my bridesmaids to put my dress on. I had a female photographer. Everything is pretty modest so you shouldn't be too concerned about this.

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