Male officiant preferred

I booked my officiant through a service- and the owner speaking to me actually asked me about this. He said a lot of people picture officiants to be men as it’s the traditional image, and that made sense to me, but I wouldn’t rule her out just yet.

While I originally thought l preferred a male officiant (and I didn’t have a clue why until speaking to the owner, and then everything made sense to me!), after speaking to me about myself and FH, the owner told me he had a particular woman in mind for our service, and so I trusted him. She sounded really interesting, and he told me she’s great at making the ceremony atmosphere seem small and intimate which is what we wanted. At the end of the day, I’ll still be marrying my best friend. Meet her, give her a fair chance, and then decide.

I had the same issue. I was looking for a male officiant just because most of the weddings I have been to are catholic with a male priest so I automatically imagined having a guy marry us. But when i met our female officiant I totally forgot about it. Just give her a chance

I'd meet with the officiant first. Maybe you will gel and gender wont be an issue (which it shouldn't )

I feel like you’re overthinking it. You should meet with any potential officiant and ultimately make the decision with your SO. If you know you want a male officiant then just say it. I don’t think anyone will find that sexist necessarily because everyone has a vision for their wedding. It doesn’t sound like your reasons are sexist in any way so do not stress.

I wanted a female officiant but we wound up getting a male. I think it comes down to the individual person and how much you click with them.

I was weird about this, too, mostly because the female pastor who officiated my brothers wedding was terrible (45 minutes late, forgot the vows/ceremony script/rude) that I only sought male officiants.

Why not meet with both and see what you prefer after getting to know them. I knew after talking with my officiant for about 10 mins she was exactly what I was looking for, gender aside. After talking with a male officiant for 10 mins, I knew he was NOT the one.

I think it's dumb to not meet with the woman just because she's a woman. Maybe you have a certain picture in your head, but that could change if you met the right officiant. If the meeting is already set, I think you should go, and afterwards, do your own research on male officiants if that's still really what you want.

Yeah, i would meet with her anyway especially if it's already set up. you never know who you might really click with.