Making a new friend a bridesmaid?

Thanks! She is excited and wants to help. She has also been in many many wedding and the rest haven't been in any.

I plan to ask a friend that I have only known a few years. Like you said, a friend is a friend. Im sure she knows what will come with being a bridesmaid and won't mind helping.

The only issue is whether you've known her long enough to be sure she'll stay a friend. But if you do, the length of the friendship doesn't matter.

I think if they are important enough to you for you to ask them to be a bridesmaid than I am sure they would be honored to help you with anything you need!

Just be sure she'll stay a friend. That was the advice my cousin gave me when we announced our engagement. When she was married, she had 6 bridesmaids, her sister, 2 SILs, and 3 BFFs. A year later, she no longer speaks to two of those BFFs. I don't know what happened, but one was a "new" friend the other was a long time child hood friend (she grew up in a small town where everyone knows everyone, so she still runs into them once and a while but they always look the opposite direction.

Yes I have newer friends as BM's! I've become better friends with them than the girls I grew up with.

My two BM are my FSILs who I've only known about a year. It definitely feels weird having them do so much for me when we're just becoming friends/family

You realize they don't have 'duties' right?

I stuck with my cousin (MOH) and her daughter, and my 2 BFFs of 20+ years from college. My FG was the daughter of my childhood best friend, who could not afford to be a BM, I asked her. She did a reading instead, along with my other cousin's daughter.

Its totally okay! I was made a bridesmaid last fall for a girl that i had only just met that year. She was marrying FH's best man, so we got really close during the planning process. One day she just asked me to be a BM and I was so honored! I think its okay as long as you are honest with your expectations of being a BM. Kinda along the lines of what Celia said.

I think it's fine! FH's SIL is going to a BM. We've known each other less than a year, but have gotten really close in that time. She doesn't have a sister, so she has made a huge effort to bond with me and get to know me since I will become the closest thing she's ever had to a sister. She's been a huge help in giving me ideas and vendor recommendations since she and FH's brother just got married last June.

Edited for spelling.

I have a fairly new friend in mine, but we became fast friends and were roommates for almost a year. Although I don't give them duties.. she has been a huge help in advice and giving her opinion. She came for dress shopping and will be attending my bachelorette and bridal party.

So, help me understand what "duties"?

"I almost feel bad for asking her to do bridesmaid duties when I haven't known her for that long" ..... Really, she just needs to show up in her dress, and enjoy the day with you. It sounds as if you feel guilty that she will be doing a job. Please make sure your BMs feel honored and special, and not like worker bees.

I think you'll be fine. I think the quality of the friendship matters more than the length. One of my bm I've known for about two years, much less compared to the rest. She's a great friend and has been helpful so far, meaning she got her dress on time. I'm not sure what other "duties" you are asking of.

One of my BM is a new friend, but she went to high school with my FH and they recently reconnected since she and her boyfriend moved to our area. Her boyfriend also went to high school with my FH, but they weren't dating back then.

One of my groomsmen fell out. I know I really wanted an equal number as my husband but also felt the idea of asking someone who knew they would be a second choice could be a problem...

A colleague had slowly become a close friend... and he asked me my plans... and I said well "I don't want to hurt this person's feelings by making them feel like a second choice, but over the past few months we've become extremely close. In fact he's been there for me more than Dante (mutual friend who fell out, not his fault, work made it so he might not be there) lately, and I want him by my side. How should I ask him?" and he replied "just like that, if he's your friend, I'm sure he'll understand. " So I said "ok then, will you be one of my groomsmen." He is truly an amazing person and one of my closest friends.

I had my sister as my moh, and my two bridesmaids were both newer friends. I am glad I picked who I did. It doesn't matter how long you have know them, it is about who is important in your life. As far as duties, the only thing I asked them to do was buy a dress and shoes that were under the lowest budget they gave me. One bm planned my bachelorette but that wasn't the expectation she offered and wanted to do that.

I'm always wary of when people pick newer friends to be in their wedding party. I'm not saying that these don't end up being lasting friendships, but it's kinda like picking a mate....you haven't really weathered enough to know if it will last long term. A majority of the times, people look at their wedding pictures 5 years down the road and aren't even talking to the bridal party members who were newer friends.