I honestly just need to vent. I did my hair & makeup trial today with my soon to be step sons and honestly hated the make up. The eyes were way too much. like extremely thick thick eye liner. However, unfortunately I feel like I am already committed to using her. I really love the way my hair was done but the makeup I have anxiety over. We did discuss the things I want done differently. We do need to order a few products to get the look I want which I said I would pay for. I think I am going to message her about doing another trial in July (my wedding is in August and I am going to be gone all June for military training) and tell her I am a little concerned about the makeup. Is that rude or is there a better way to phrase it? I feel like I am being a bit of a bridezilla.
100% not being a bridezilla! Your makeup should be exactly how you want it. You’ll be in photos all day that you’ll hold onto forever.
I think your phasing is fine, it’s okay to have concerns and a good mua should be able to listen to your wants and concerns and adjust her work to what you want. I would definitely do a second trial run to make sure she’ll listen and for peace of mind so you aren’t stressing on your wedding day 🤗
Is it possible to use her for hair and someone else for makeup? Many hairdressers cannot do good makeup and many makeup artists cannot do good hair because those are completely different specialty fields.
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You know I was just thinking the same thing. I am just not really sure how to phrase it to her without hurting feelings if that makes sense? I feel like this is a potential lose lose situation.
Hi Sabrina! My hair and makeup artist was very receptive to my requests and they really want you to be happy. I would let him/her know their work was great and you love the hairstyle, but realized you’d like to go a more natural route with makeup. I brought photos of makeup I liked to communicate my vision more clearly. I too have a really hard time speaking up for fear of hurting feelings, but my artist told me from the beginning “if you don’t like something please tell me because I want you to express it and walk out feeling amazing and pleased”. Hope this helps and believe me, you won’t be the first or the last bride who wants to make changes and there’s nothing wrong with that ❤️❤️❤️
Definitely speak up. You are paying her, so you should be happy. She should be professional about it. And telling her you want it done in a different way doesn't mean you have to say it in a rude way.
However, one more thing to consider. Did you take pictures of your make-up? Often wedding make-up looks like a lot more than normal everyday make-up because it's done for photos. Do you normally wear a lot of make-up?For my trial I felt it my eyeshadow was too dark and it felt too much. But my friend who saw it loved it. With some time and seeing it in different lightning it grew on me. For my wedding my HMU went a tiny bit lighter on my eyes than the trial but not a lot and I loved it and love it even more on the photos. Also, fake eyelashes felt like too much at first but actually looked pretty natural and again so beautiful on the photos. So don't just think about what it looked like at first or in certain light but in different light and especially photos plus give it some time to get used to if you're not used to a lot of make-up. Just something to consider, maybe I am totally off..
But if you didn't like the style and you're not happy, definitely tell her before the wedding.
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Most understànd if you say you want it applied with a lighter hand to give a more natural look to your eyes. Letting her know we'll ahead may cue her to bring lighter makeup, and ñot to sell you such items, so do it ahead of time.
The makeup is important , just let her know that you like her work but you think the the color tones don’t go with the softer look you’re going for .. you can send her make up pictures of styles and colors your going for for more visual affect
Everyone has different styles/preferences and the whole point of a trial is so that the client and HMUA have a chance to refine a look so it matches the clients liking. I think for many more minimal, no fuss brides, a full face of makeup always feels overdone. So it is 100% appropriate to give her feedback of less eyeliner, softer look over, etc. It can also be helpful to bring a friend to help enforce your vision. One of my friends is low/no makeup and also low confrontation, so she found it super helpful to have one of her more outspoken bridesmaids with her when having her makeup done. The bridesmaid would constantly be checking in with her and telling the MUA, "she doesn't want more concealer, I know you think this would look good but she doesn't want that" etc. The MUA was trying to make her look made up and flawless, and the bride just wanted to look like a refreshed version of herself.
Additionally, I don't think it's common for brides to have to pay for a bunch of products for the MUA to use. If you are buying lipstick that you can reapply on your own later or lashes, for example, that is pretty typical, but if the MUA is charging you to buy a different foundation or concealer because she doesn't have the right colors or something I would definitely question that.
Not being rude at all. It's your wedding and you deserve to look exactly the way you want. You are paying her right? I see it as this if I'm paying you for a service and don't like the service I'll let you know, why because I work hard for my money to sit quietly and be unhappy with how my money was spent. I'd tell her that the make up wasn't your style and would like another trail for it. Send her pictures of what you have in mind.
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So she offered to do it and essentially wasn't going to charge me (I was still going to pay her something). But for our trial we used pretty much what I had makeup wise a little of what she had but then after it we decided needed to buy more stuff. She isn't actually a professional MUA more like someone who does it on the side for fun. I had sent her photos too. I think I decided last night to have her do my hair and pay someone for my makeup. I have a friend from esthetic school who is a professional MUA.
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That might be a better idea to have someone else do the makeup
I think makeup is one of the most important parts on your day. You don’t want to hate your wedding pictures. If you feel obligated, do another trial with that person but also try some other makeup artists in the meantime. You don’t want to hate it again and then have to start from scratch ❤️ That definitely doesn’t make you a bridezilla