Jessica
Dedicated July 2020

Major anxiety over the “emotional” aspect of the wedding!

Jessica, on March 10, 2020 at 1:16 AM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 1 15
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I’m usually not one to show too many emotions. Every time I picture myself walking down the aisle, I see myself getting emotional and crying (in front of everybody!) and it makes me super anxious. My palms get sweaty at the thought of that and it makes me not want a wedding! What can I do to ease my anxiety? I want to be able to enjoy my wedding.

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Latest activity by Alex, on March 10, 2020 at 12:45 PM
  • Mob
    Dedicated May 2021
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    Oh Jessica congratulations I think ever bride cries on the wedding day something's are going to happen but they are tears of joy its seeing two people becoming one- anyone would shed tears of joy congratulations again
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  • A
    Super August 2020
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    Have a first look! If you are nervous about being emotional, this is a great a private moment to get out a few of those tears. I also assume that being with you FH will help ease your anxiety before walking down the aisle. Win win!

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  • Tamera
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    Literally same. Every time I think about wearing my dress, seeing my parents, walking down the isle with my dad, the first dance, the father-daughter dance, literally anything, I tear up. I am a little worried about the emotion, but I know it is all from a place of love and happiness, so I'm really not concerned. And from what I have heard, the day goes by so fast, and there is so much to do, that you won't have time to worry about what everyone thinks about you crying.

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  • Kelli
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    I have major anxiety too. I hate being center of attention, especially when I'm emotional. A friend of mine suggested doing a first look. Just to get a lot of the emotions out without a huge audience. It's just the two of us having a moment together. Its helped me calm down a lot.
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  • Kaysey
    Super February 2020
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    I was worried about this too at my wedding. I have anxiety and I hate being the center of attention, but I wanted a wedding to show my husband and I's friends and family how much we love each other. The first thing my husband and I agreed on was a first look. This helped calm both of our nerves before the ceremony started. It was the first time we saw each other that day and to have that moment to ourselves to calm ourselves down was great. My husband was a little emotional as well. I didn't think he'd cry on our wedding day, but when we were saying our vows he did.

    When I walked down the aisle with my grandpa the only person I looked at was my husband. I didn't look at any of our guests watching. This helped me focus on us and what was going on. Because I don't like being the center of attention, we asked our officiant (who is a good friend of ours), to make the ceremony quick - and he did. Our ceremony was around 10 minutes from the time the bridal party entered to the time we were pronounced husband and wife. After the ceremony itself everything else was fine. I wasn't anxious about being the center of attention anymore and all of my nerves went away.

    You've got this! Focus on you and your future spouse and no one else. Your wedding is for you two and no one else!
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  • Deirdre
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    I totally agree with this. I did one and both me and my H, got our tears out. We still cried a little during the ceremony, but it definitely helped with the anxiety and gave us the opportunity to have a quiet private moment before all the craziness started.

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  • Melle
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    I’ve seen brides on here say their vows to each other beforehand that way the ceremony is just generic declarations of intent
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  • Jessica
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    Yes you’re very right, thank you!
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  • Jessica
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    Thank you so much for this comment! I’d never heard of a first look before. FH and I agreed to it 😊 I feel better already!
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  • Jessica
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    You’re so right, Tamera!
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  • Jessica
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    I hate being the center of attention too! FH and I agreed to doing a first look. My anxiety is more at ease already 😊
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  • Jessica
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    I also have anxiety and hate being the center of attention! I have to keep reminding myself that it’s OK for it to be about me for once lol I think a family member is going to be our officiant too. I might have to get him to speed it up as well. Thank you so much for your comment!
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  • Jessica
    Dedicated July 2020
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    I’m so glad I posted this on the forum! I’d never heard of it and now we’ve added it to our list of things to do!
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  • Jessica
    Dedicated July 2020
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    I don’t think we’re doing vows, but this would’ve been a great idea!
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  • A
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    Added bonus, you can get most pictures done before the wedding if you have a first look! Then more time to celebrate after the ceremony!!!

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