Maids of honor stressing me out and not helping

Hello, I’m getting married in a couple months so I’m starting to feel the stress more than ever. For my wedding I chose 2 people to be my maid of honor. Lately, I’ve been feeling very frustrated with them. There’s been a few conflicts wedding related. We were talking about hairstyles for them, and one of them loved the same hairstyle as the other. I said I felt it’d look kinda weird to have some of them match hairstyles (since it was a very detailed stand out half braid) and some of them not matching. I said it’s not that big of a deal if they really love the hairstyle. One of the MOH went off on me. Saying that’s ridiculous and I should just make everyone have the same hairstyle then because that’s what SHE WANTS. I once again said it’s just my opinion and i feel like I’m allowed to voice it for my wedding. I’m not telling anyone not to do anything. The other MOH was in the same group chat agreeing with her. Felt crappy. Another problem I had is with their outfits. It’s a winter snowy wedding and they are wearing an off white sweater and a burgundy long skirt. We all made the mistake of choosing a skirt from far away so it took months to get to us. Once they got the skirts, they didn’t fit. So I suggested to get them altered and if they don’t want to pay, I offered to help or pay for the entire thing. For some reason they were heated. Out of their frustration they complained about the skirts and said stuff like we could’ve got something “nicer” “for the price we could’ve gotten a David’s bridal dress” and told me they refuse to get alterations and asked me “why’d you have to choose such a complicated skirt from so far away?!!” With all my stress of planning an entire wedding, I was very upset that they weren’t cooperating. On top of all this, I wish they were more involved. I pictured this whole experience as a group effort with the ones I love. And I have done absolutely everything on my own. A few days later I sent a message to the group chat saying I need my bestfriends, and since they are the MOH I want them to be more involved. And that I need help from them. Once again they both went off on me saying I am spoiled and ungrateful because they threw me a bachelorette party and attended the day I got my dress. And “that’s more than most brides get from their MOH” I feel so broken right now that asking for help has caused an issue. I said it the nicest way I could exactly how I said it here. That I need my bestfriends. Idk what to do at this point. I’m seriously hurt that they feel that way. It makes me feel like such a nuisance which is the reason I never asked for help in the first place. I wanted them to ask. So it took awhile to be communicated. Am I being ridiculous here? What should I do?