Maiden name, 2nd middle name

I'm not doing this, but it's something for me to consider.

I was planning on legally changing my name but not really telling my students (I'm a teacher). I don't need them changing my new last name into something mean!

I had a post like this a week ago. If you search for name changing I think you can find it. I'm getting rid of my current last name when I get married.

I also think there's another post similar up right now.

@bemyguest, I can see how it would be easier to continue using your name in class. You've already established yourself in your career. My career is part of why I just want to shift my maiden name back a spot.

@futurebennis, I was able to find that I can legally do it, but was curious as to whether people thought it too much of a headache. I saw the other post, but that one seemed to be specifically about whether people are changing their name or not. I'm definitely changing mine, but I'm leaning towards have two middle names, and when I glanced through the comments I didn't see anything specific about this scenario (may have missed it).

@bemyguest- I'm a teacher too. I've decided to hyphenate so I can keep my name at work but use FH name too. A lot of teachers in my district do this. One teacher was married almost two years ago and still no one knows what to call her.

I thought about doing that, as my maiden name is Rose. Instead of keeping it in my name, my daughter's middle name is Rose. Not many of her friends will ever get the connection, but it's still close to my heart.

@jerseygirl I'm not even telling the kids my new last name. They just get so confused... and I teach high school!

Funny side bar: I told FH I was doing this, and he got upset and asked why I wasn't changing my name. I was so confused! Told him "I am changing my name legally and for everyone else, it's just a pain to deal with at work!" He's still not happy about it, (idk why, as we've had this talk before and he had no problem) but there isn't anything he can do about it! It's my name!

@SarahH I think that's really sweet! I've spoken with FH about using my maiden name as a potential 2nd name for when we have kids. He's the last in his line, so his last name is very important to him, but there's also not very many people left with my last name. As of right now, my brother doesn't have kids, so we would be the last two in our line.

I hear you on that! My husband's pretty much the last male of his line. He's nervous that we'll never have a biological son to carry on the name.

In New York State, the marriage license specifically states that (besides keeping your name of course) you can change your last name to that of your spouse, hyphenate the two names, or do a mishmash of either.

I'm changing mine but using both for professional purposes. I'm proud of my Polish heritage but sick of having to spell it every single time I need to confirm an appointment or a document. Also, cutting that ties to my verbally abusive, misogynist family helps too.

In Portuguese culture you dont drop any names you add on! I am planning to do that i dont use my middle name but its from my great grandmother. My last name i got my MA and PsyD with so im attach. I will just add on like they do in my culture!

@Danielle, I'm in Illinois and I know we can do it in basically any combination.

@Jessica, my best friend is Filipino and they do something similar. Their second middle name is their mother's maiden name. From what I understand, when the women get married they drop their mother's maiden name and move their maiden name into that position and take their husband's last name (hoping I got that right). I always liked that, because it seemed like a great way to honor where they came from while still moving forward.

That's what I'm doing! I love my family heritage and I've built a career with my maiden name, but I also want to create a new family with my FH.

I've done this! My maiden name is pretty uncommon as well. I used to dislike it and planned to become Rachel MiddleName Langerhans, but then I decided to keep my maiden name and I didn't want to get rid of my middle name, so I kept it all... Rachel MiddleName MaidenName Langerhans. That's the full name on my social security card. The social security office told me this would be fine. When I went to get a new driver's license, the DMV told me "The social security office did it wrong, it should be Rachel MiddleName Langerhans." I said "No, because I wanted all of it; a person can have two middle names." The DMV said they couldn't fit all of it on my license. So my license has my name as Rachel MiddleName Langerhans. I think my doctor's offices also have Rachel MiddleName Langerhans. I called the Department of State passport info line to check before applying for a new passport and they said I could put whatever I wanted in regards to those two variations, so my passport has my full name (Rachel MiddleName MaidenName Langerhans). I'm glad I chose to keep it all

@Rachel Langerhans, thank you for posting! I was hoping someone else would have done this. I'm glad to hear you're happy with it, as it makes me feel more comfortable moving forward in this direction. It'll be a much longer name overall, but I won't feel like I'm letting go of anything.

Yay! Glad to help Yep... My name is quite long and awkward now, lol, but it's who I am and I didn't want to give up any part of it, so I love it. I haven't had any trouble so far with anything.

Im in IL and I did this. At work I use my maiden name (husband works at the same place). My SS card and passport list both middle names. DL lists both middle initials. The lady at the DMV gave me a hard time because she hates her life. Technically only first and last name are legal, middle is for identification only.

I'm doing this! I always planned to drop my middle name completely and go by FirstName MaidenName MarriedName, but FH actually calls me by my first and middle names, so that's a no-go. Both of my sisters did the same thing, and they haven't had too many problems. To me, "cumbersome" isn't a good enough reason to do a name change that I don't truly love...and I love FirstName MaidenName MaidenName MarriedName.

Ohh thanks for posting, I was thinking about doing this too. I'm the last person with my last name, so I didn't want to lose it completely, but at the same time looking forward to going to a much easier to spell last name instead of my crazy Greek one.

I'm doing this. I hope it doesn't becoming annoying. My name is going to be really long but I love my maiden name. Thanks for posting this, its good to hear other people have done this