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Maid vs matron of honor title

Kelley, on October 6, 2020 at 11:46 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 16
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I’m getting my girls customized cups as part of their gifts when I ask them to be in the bridal party. The girl I’m asking to be my maid of honor will be married by the time our wedding day comes. Should I address her as maid or matron of honor?? I plan to propose ASAP, she’s getting married in April 2021, and I’m getting married October 2021. TIA!

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Latest activity by Michelle, on October 7, 2020 at 8:14 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn Online ·
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    She will be a matron.

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  • Kristen
    Rockstar November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    Technically, yes but ya know what my MOH is married and I have referred to her as maid of honor...even the stuff I have given her says so.

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  • K
    Beginner October 2021
    Kelley ·
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    I know she will be a matron by time my wedding comes, but if I would propose to her today she would be considered a maid of honor. I just don’t know which title to use for her personalized cup at this point in time.
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  • Megan
    Expert October 2021
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    There really is no etiquette as far as a I know I was in the same boat asking my sister as my maid of honor then she got married but didn’t ever want to be called matron cuz she said it made her feel old lol. It is up to you if you want matron or maid it’s just a title and it’s whatever title you want
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  • K
    Beginner October 2021
    Kelley ·
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    That makes sense. I’m sure she won’t care either way, I just didn’t know if there was proper etiquette! Thank you!
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  • K
    Beginner October 2021
    Kelley ·
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    Thank you!
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    There is no right or wrong way, but since you're asking her to accept a specific role in your wedding, I would label it what she will be at the wedding.

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    Furure Mrs. ·
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    I would get it with matron of honor. She will probably be excited to receive a gift that acknowledges that she will be married by then!

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    Theresa ·
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    I'd say the day where her title actually matters is your wedding day, and on that day she'd be a Matron of Honor, so I'd go with that. And Taylor makes a good point, she'll probably be excited that you're acknowledging her upcoming marriage!

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  • anna
    Dedicated October 2019
    anna ·
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    I would label it what she will be at your wedding, which is matron of honor.

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    Devoted June 2021
    Allie ·
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    I agree with Taylor and Theresa....maybe you could even say "Future Mrs. Doe....Matron of Honor" or something! Just throwing it out there Smiley smile

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  • Melle
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    Melle ·
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    I would get matron of honor.

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    Judith ·
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    I recommend not customizing things like cups, as almost everyone throws such things away.
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    Casey ·
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    I agree- getting cute cups without monograms saves money anyway Smiley smile
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  • Heather
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    Heather ·
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    I don’t think the title is really a big deal unless it matters to you. My sister is married and all of her stuff said maid of honor, and I am going to be the MOH for my cousins wedding, and she is using maid in the title. Yes, I am aware of what is proper, but it also comes down to your preference. Do whatever you like.
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  • Michelle
    Devoted November 2021
    Michelle ·
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    My sister is already married, but when I asked her how she wanted to be titled she said she wanted maid of honor. We both know that is not the correct term, but I am happy to do whatever she prefers.

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