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Justine
Beginner October 2020

Maid of Honor

Justine, on September 24, 2020 at 9:21 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6
I’m in an odd situation.
When I started wedding planning I was only going to have 2 bridesmaids, my sister and one of my friends. Since there was just two of them I chose not to pick a maid of honor. ( my sister and I are very close, and I was the MOH for my friends wedding last year). The party grew and I ended up with four bridesmaids and never picked a MOH. Now the wedding is 8 days away. My sister has assumed all the MOH responsibilities. I want to call her my maid of honor, and do something for her for the wedding but since I never formally picked one before now is it too late??

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Latest activity by Yasmine, on September 24, 2020 at 5:25 PM
  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    You can but honestly it is just a title. I would say a lovely gift for her would be nice. I mean with the wedding so close I doubt you can change the programs unless you want to. I think a nice gift and maybe she can give a speech at your wedding?

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  • Lisa
    Legend July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    I would suggest that you write her a really nice thank you note and give an extra gift to her to acknowledge all of her efforts, but I think titles should be given based on the relationship you have with the person, not how much work they did for your wedding. The MOH and bridesmaids duties are to show up on time to the wedding and to wear the specified attire. If you are closest to your sister and want to give her the MOH title, I say go for it, I don't think anyone should be offended by that!
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Yea I would just get her a nicer or extra gift
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  • M
    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    I agree with PP. You could even, because it's your sister, tell her (in your thank you letter) you wished you had made her MOH from the beginning. But I wouldn't make it "official" or mention it to anyone else.

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  • J
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    Judith ·
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    Not too late. The MOH is usually the person or persons who have known the bride longest, or are closest to them at wedding time. ( as opposed to back in school days, or previous job.) Tell everyone I did not want to set my sister off as different from the others,at first. But working together on the wedding, we have become closer than for a long time , and should be my maid of honor.
    Do something to set off her attire from others, even if changing 2-3 larger blossoms of her bouquet to a different color, with other colored ribbons does it.
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  • Yasmine
    Master October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    I agree with everyone that it’s mainly a title but to get her a nice gift!
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