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Maid of honor

Holley, on May 22, 2019 at 10:53 PM Posted in Planning 0 7

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Hello I am stressing out a little bit. I don't know who to choose as my maid of honor. I have 3 people in mind to choose from. 2 are my sisters and 1 is my bff since I was 4 so basically another sister but this is my problem. My youngest sister who is 18 isn't organized at all but she lives close by to help more. My oldest sister ( 26) is very organized and loves to plan things but she lives 6 hours away from me so she will have a hard time planning things from over there and last my bff( 21) is stressed out by small things all the time so idk if she will be able to handle the stress of it all. I am stressing over this and don't know who to choose who do you think I should choose

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Elyssa · on May 23, 2019 at 12:01 AM
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There is no rule that says you can only have one Maid of Honor, why don't you just make them all your Maids of Honor? Tell them that you love them all and would rather have them all be your MOH instead of making any of them bridesmaids. Your MOH doesn't have to be your go-to planner or coordinator, so don't worry about who is best equipped to deal with that. If you're planning to have other people in the bridal party, they can still be bridesmaids.
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Hannah · on May 23, 2019 at 12:26 AM
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I like Elyssa's suggestion. If you're set on only having one, I would go with your oldest sister. The MOH doesn't necessarily have to plan a lot of things, but if they are throwing a bridal shower, etc., you want to have someone organized who can get everyone else to do what they have to do. A MOH is kind of like a leader, so who could lead your bridal party in tasks that they set to accomplish. I chose my MOh based on this and my entire wedding planning experience has been smooth sailing.
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Holley · on May 23, 2019 at 12:44 AM
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Thank you so much for your input I greatly appreciate it
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Madison · on May 23, 2019 at 1:29 AM
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I would say who do you want by you’re side throughout the entire process? I don’t have sisters so this was an easier choice for me as I picked my best friend. The nice thing is that she doesn’t have to totally plan things are her own. My MOH asks others for help and all is well.
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Furture Mrs. G · on May 23, 2019 at 10:15 AM
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When I chose mine I knew I wanted someone who would have my best interest at heart, someone who could financially afford it, someone who knows my deepest secrets and never judges me, someone who I could call in the middle of the night and she would be there. When I thought of that only one person came to mind. Not the person I have known all my life or my best friend of 10 years, but, someone I had only known a year at the time. It was the BEST choice I could have ever made. When I say she has been here for me through every minute of this she really has. It's been an amazing adventure.
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Jolie · on May 23, 2019 at 11:42 AM
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It should never be about who has the best time and capacity to plan... It should be who is most important to you. Personally I would never chose a friend over my sister and I was grateful to have a sister to pick. She hasn't ever been in a wedding before and doesn't know how to plan everything. That's okay. But I never had a friend since 4 years old. I would go with your gut. If you can't imagine choosing your best friend over your sisters then I would make my two sisters the maids of honor. Do you have additional prospects for bridesmaids?
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Holley · on May 23, 2019 at 4:36 PM
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Thank you all for your responses I appreciate it alot after reading and reviewing all you wrote and talking it over with my FH I have decided to go with my best friend and let my other 2 sisters have other important roles in the wedding such as hair and makeup for my little sister and letting my older sister plan the menu ( she's a assistant chef). Thank you all so much again i appreciate it
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