Maid of Honor wants to wear a suit...advice...?

Why can’t you sibling wear what would make them most comfortable?

Let them wear the suit. Why would you want them in something that isnt their identity?

I'm 100% on the side of letting them wear what they want, no matter how they identify. There are so many options out there, that I'm sure they can look great and still feel comfortable too.

Accept them for who they are and let them wear a suit. Not a big deal.

Thank you all for the advice. i do not have a problem referring to them as my sibling. i started with "sister" to make sure everyone else could get insight into the situation i am describing. so i do feel that they should be comfortable as well...i am hoping you all will tell me that traditionally this would be taboo and that now, i shouldn't worry about what anyone else thinks as long as they are by my side. so i am happy with this thread so far. any advice on where to shop? they are not against feminine... so i am confused that why for this event....they chose to appeal more to the masculine side of their personality rather than tapping into the fem side for one day as they do quite often on any regular day.... this is why i am asking for anyone who identifies in a similar way as my sibling to help me make sense or make sure i have my vision and also the support and comfort for my sibby.

(sibling is their preference)

How would you feel if the tables were turned and someone wanted you to wear a suit just to blend in with other people? Don’t force anyone into an outfit they aren’t comfortable wearing.

Just saw your update - I’m happy you feel that way! Is there a particular place they like to shop? If they’re comfortable in a womens cut suit, Ann Taylor and Express are great places to start. If they’re looking for a “mans” suit, Macy’s or Men’s Warehouse should be able to help.

My MOH identifies as binary, neither female or male strongly. She requested to wear a wear pants, the same as the GMs but on my side. Since I also have a bridesman and FH has a groomswoman, who's wearing a dress, I had no problems having her wear pants. Then again, that's what she feels most comfortable in, and I didn't give it a second thought.

Let them wear the suit. Comfort is most important
i nearly had a heart attack when both my bridesmaids wanted to wear dresses since that’s not their style

though I did agree to wear a tux to one of their weddings 😂

I don't think it matters at all what your sibling identifies as. They should be able to wear something that makes them feel good, and if that's a suit, then so be it. I would want my sibling by my side more than I would care about their attire.

Help your sibling pick out a nice suit.

You could do something nice in the middle then— match the groomsmen suits in color but get your sibling in something more fitted and tailored to them? OR get creative with a suit in the color of the bridesmaid dresses (if it could translate to suit). Can definitely go a little custom on the design!

Nobody in 2018 or 2019 will even have second thoughts about somebody on the brides side in a suit- man or woman or other. It’s so common now, and suits are quite fashionable, regardless of how one identifies. Heck, there are bridal suits for the bride available. A bridesperson is a no-brainer.

Thank you all so much. i love my sibling and of course i want them to be comfortable. this feedback makes me so happy. soooo the questions is now...

do i match the bridesmaids or the GMs? thought???

Let your sibling wear what makes hir happy. Would you make your brother wear a dress if you wanted him to stand with you? Not likely, you would put him in a suit and call him your Man of Honor.

Your sibling should be allowed to choose whatever makes hir feel the most comfortable. Your sibling should also be consulted about hir title and what they prefer.

Ultimately, this goes beyond your wedding and the most important thing should be making sure your sibling feels respected and comfortable otherwise there is a chance of doing lifelong damage to the relationship.

You don’t need to say “sister” in the being, it’s a little rude.
The best option is to take them somewhere like Men’s Warehouse, Macy’s or Jim’s Formal Wear (my FW uses them) to get them measured and fitted for a suit that will fit their figure.

View Quoted Comment I would ask you’re sibling. I’d like my bridesmaids/men in copper, and our MOH and BM in sage, but in the end I’m letting them chose which colors they each want. But maybe give them you’re color palette and ask them what colors they’d like to use for their tie, jacket, suspenders ect.

My MOH is not strictly masculine which is why i am asking these questions had my sibling been only identifying as one gender specifically it wouldn't have even been a question but like i said they will wear heels occasionally and sometimes dresses. i don't want them to have to wear a "mens" suit... are there options for tailoring? MOH now asking if anyone knows where to find a suit with a peplum and a more masculine neckline? custom made?

I wouldn't worry about this at all! I don't know your bridal party colors, but there are SO many options out there! Check out Asos, Topshop, Zara, Nordstrom..so many! Also, maybe they would be open to jumpsuits? Some of these are more on the feminine side and maybe not the style your sibling wants, but just so you can see some ideas! There are literally endless options!

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Has your sibling ever shopped for suits before? They might know stores that sell exactly what they have in mind for their MOH suit.

I think either matching the GM in color or the BM's in color would be fine. I'd talk with your sibling about your color palette and ask them for their opinion on what color suit they'd like to wear, if they want to wear a more feminine tailored blouse or a more masculine button down, and if it's the kind of shirt that would look good with a tie, work with them to find one on your palette, either identical to the GM ties or something in a different color within your palette. I would look at it as an opportunity to work together on something with your sibling.