Maid of Honor Title Switch

1. You’d be a matron of honor but there can be more than one.
2. I’d be excited that one of my best friends was getting married.
3. Again, I’d be excited my friend was getting married and would 100% participate.

1. She could have two matrons of honor instead of a maid and matron. Or if she’d rather list you as a “maid” because you were unmarried when the wedding party was organized, let her do her.
2. I would feel excited for you! And excited to plan our weddings together. It’s really fun to have someone to talk about wedding planning with!
3. I bet she will be honored! The worst she can say is no. But I bet she won’t.
Maybe she will be surprised and have an a different initial reaction. Maybe she will be concerned about the cost of holding both weddings (and any pre-wedding events) within the next year. That would be totally understandable! However, I hope over the long term this is an exciting time for you guys to develop friendship even further as you prepare for your weddings. It seems like you are a very considerate friend for weighing how she may feel.

1. Can I still be the "Maid" of honor at her wedding (She already has a matron of honor), even though I will have been married 5-6 months before her wedding?

Yes! I got engaged before my best friend and she got married first. We were both happy to be each other Maids of honor.

2. How would you feel if you were her in this scenario?

I was happy for her and I'm sure she will be happy for you!

3. I want to ask her to be my maid of honor but not sure how she will react, thoughts?

She will be fine. You'll probably be think of bad reactions in your head like she did about me. Claire and I have know each other since just before our 5th Birthday and I'm sure she'll react like I did, I sent her virtual hugs as she lives on the opposite side of the country. I may have squealed when she first asked me as she asked me to be her Maid of Honor before she said she was engaged. She told me a few minutes later.

You can have two MOH who are both Matrons of Honor, or both Maids. They are not separate positions. They are especially close friends or family, usually ones you feel closer to or have known longer than other Bridesmaids. If they happen to be married, or get married, they are called Matron ( means married woman) and if not they are called Maid,( single woman). Bridesmaids once we're all still single maids, but that has not been true for years. The point is one or 2 get a title " of Honor" to recognize the longer or closer relationship. There is no rank involved. They don't rank higher than bridesmaids. They don't do anything a bridesmaid cannot do, and are not boss bridesmaids. When a MOH takes charge of something, like a shower, it does not happen because she is MOH. Any close friend, or family, in wedding or not, can plan a shower. As can any BM It is just that as the one closest to you, she is most likely to volunteer, if she can. Just as BM don't automatically do showers, but as very closest friends, are more likely to volunteer than no bridesmaids to do parties.
So since there are no special duties that belong to a Maid of Matron of Honor, it does not matter if they change from one to another. What they do still comes down to who volunteers to do what, BM, Both MOH, or other friends.

1. You would be a matron of honor. She can have more than one.

2. I would be happy for my friend.

3. I don't know your friend, but given that you will be her matron of honor, I am sure she would love getting to be your maid of honor. If for some reason she doesn't, try not to take that personally even though that would be very difficult.

I would not care at all, but I don't know your friend, and unfortunately, there certainly are bridezillas who would care.

I think she would normally be thrilled to be your MOH (and may even expect it if you are hers), but if you are planning to ask your MOH to help you a lot of your wedding things, she may not have the bandwidth with her own wedding coming up. If that's the case, you can have co-MOHs to share the load, or just delegate some of the traditional MOH tasks to another friend or family member.

Everyone already addressed the title. So I am just going to say that I was a "maid of honor" for my sister even though I was already married. She didn't care and I just preferred the sound of it. There is no sexist/antiquated title change for men, so it bothers me that it's a thing for women.

As for you getting engaged after but married before your friend, she *shouldn't* mind, but there is plenty of evidence on this site that people *do* mind. There's nothing you can do about her feelings though and you aren't doing anything wrong by getting engaged now or setting your wedding date before hers. Just share your exciting news with her and let her react however she's going to react.