Maid of Honor Stress

Have you already chosen your bridal party? If so, it could be a slap in the face to a bridesmaid to make my maid of honor just because the one that you originally wanted couldn't come. I was just saying maybe you forgo the maid of honor but at the same time I would honestly have a heart-to-heart with your best friend and just nicely ask her to put aside any differences that she has with your father as it is important for her to be there for you on the day of your wedding.

View Quoted Comment She has made it very clear she will not be there unfortunately.
I haven't asked the others to be bridesmaids yet. We've only had a best man and maid of honor until she told me she wouldn't be there

Can you just choose to not have a maid of honor and only have bridesmaids. Seems silly to be stressing about something that isn’t a necessity.

View Quoted Comment I personally feel you should not give a title to someone just because. Now you do have a close relationship with your little sister. I don't see why asking her is bad, even if she is underage. If anything she just may not be able to attend any Bachelorette type events. I would just say don't give the title to someone just because you want them to have the title because on the day of the wedding probably no one is going to notice. . Really give that title to someone that you could not imagine. They're not being there on the day of your wedding by your side. I will say that no disrespect to your best friend, but she's being very selfish. Even if she has issues with your dad. She could totally just ignore him on the day of to be there for you. I hope she realizes that and eventually comes around. Because she's putting her pride in the way of sharing in your happiness.

I wouldn’t make another bridesmaid the MOH. think you should ask your sister.. is she doing anything else in the wedding? 17 isn’t too young and she can even help with other planning but just not finances. My sister is my maid of honor and she’s 18. She’s been a HUGE help in planning with me and visiting vendors with me. I made my youngest sister (only 11) Jr Maid of Honor just to not leave her out & left financial planning such as bridal party expenses up to my mom.

You don’t have to have a MOH.

I am sorry you feel like your best friend is letting you down. There's a long time between now and your wedding though, and she may change her mind.

Setting that aside, I agree with everyone who says you shouldn't replace her or give a title to someone else just to have someone with that title. The title doesn't matter; the people around you do.

Read through posts on this site about brides & grooms including people in their parties who they aren't close with or are not sure about. Or picking someone just to make sides even or to give into family pressure. It ends badly SO OFTEN. Spare yourself that and just keep those closest to you involved. If you don't have a named MOH, you will be fine.