Maid of Honor Stress

How many bridesmaids (plus MOH) do you plan on having total? If it's just the three, or if you have 6 or more total, you could have all three be co-MOHs?

View Quoted Comment I plan on having 4, I didn’t think about having all three be MOH. I guess I just thought it was the more “traditional” thing to only have one.

A maid of honor isn't a requirement.

I would just have all 4 of them as bridesmaids and not choose a maid of honor. I think making 3 MOH and having 1 bridesmaid may make the 1 girl who is just a bridesmaid feel a little bad and left out as the odd one out.

I agree with Hannah. If you can't decide between the three then I just wouldn't have one at all. I think it could be hurtful to the fourth girl if she was the odd one out.

I have 2 MOH. One is my sister and the other is my bestfriend

View Quoted Comment That makes sense! It's usually totally fine to have more than one MOH, but in this case, I would either pick 1 MOH and have the other three be bridesmaids, or just have them all be bridesmaids. If you have three MOHs and one bridesmaid, the bridesmaid may feel left out.

I had the same problem. I decided not to have any maid of honors.

I have 3 best friends and I made them all MOHs. I couldn’t choose either and they are all thrilled with it. You don’t have to have just one. Or you don’t technically have to have one at all, just have all bridesmaids.

As PP's have said. Best to not have a maid of honor given your situation.

Have 3. Its not worth upsetting your best friends or “choosing” one over a title.

I would just not have one. Just make all of them bridesmaids

Skip the maid of honor title. But pick one to your legal witness for legal paperwork

MOH is usually either the one you are closest to, or the one you have known longest. Sometimes known longest is easier because it is something you can point to as a reason, concrete fact, to get you out of a who do I like or love most dilemma. ... We did not have a rehearsal. Many weddings I have been in, BM are lined up by height, going up or down with GM same. Or an only MOH next to bride. Or a jr or young bridesmaid who was daughter or sis of the bride, standing next to her to hold her bouquet. My mom asked what I wanted, and I told her, for my MOH to be as far from me as possible. She was wearing a new perfume her husband had just given her for her first anniversary, days before. I discovered it made my eyes run and me sniffle in 1 pic of her next to me. So Mom said to me, give me an order. I did, randomly. What she noticed and told them was that they would be in the order I met them, with my Godmother who delivered me closest, and my MOH army friend at the furthest, leading the procession, which made her furthest from me ( we have a different layout than many). I had not thought of that. What an easy out. 🙂
Though some time later I did tell MOH after a few drinks, that the truth was her smell made me ill, but I would not ask her to wash off her sentimental gift.