Maid of Honor Speech Help

I wrote a draft of a speech I was going to say as MOH for my bff’s wedding and I had to look up ideas too aha. It seems like most people start off with introducing themselves and then go into what you love about the bride and groom as a couple, any cute or funny stories you may have, and then well wishes to the couple.

I did a quick Google search for 'maid of honor speeches' and they have examples and writing tips to get you started.

Definitely don’t wing it.
I wish I had saved mine. My best friend had a maid and a matron of honor at her wedding.
Knowing the matron, I knew her would be the heartfelt, tear inducing type of speech. (I was right too...poor thing couldn’t even finish. I had to do the toast part for her). So I went a little more light hearted and funny to balance things out.
In all reality, it’s a reflection of your relationship with the bride and groom. When you met, how you knew she found her person, and any little quirks that make them who they are. You don’t bring up wild nights before they met or exes. And you limit inside jokes because the rest of the room won’t get it.
Don’t stress about it. Focus on what you love about your friend and how happy you are for her starting this next chapter. You’ll do great! ❤️

How you met, what makes her special, and how you’re happy for the couple

As a guest, my experience with MOH and BM speeches is that the ones that have a thesis (literally like a paper for school) are ALWAYS better. The one with lots of stories or inside jokes always kind of bores guests. The one with a message about the couple and their future is always better.



Two examples: I went to a wedding for an older couple. The MOH gave a speech about how much she loved the bride and how great college was etc. The BM gave a speech starting with "we often find our destiny on the road we take to avoid it" about how his friend had put off dating for so long and how it had been a great thing because he met the best woman for him. And then he talked about how the two of them together would build a beautiful future because of who they are. The BM speech was better.

At another, the MOH gave a speech telling stories about how nice the bride is (and she is very kind). The BM gave a speech about how marriage is about finding the truth together and the couple was the most committed to finding the truth he had ever met (they both had broken from family ideals in their marriage and lifestyle choices). Once again, the BM speech was better.

Think about the core idea you want to leave the audience and couple with (things like eternal love, opposites attract, meaning of marriage are classics) that reflects the best aspect of the couple's union. Every couple brings something unique and wonderful to the world through their marriage. What will they bring?

I've taught college-level public speaking for nearly 30 years, poster Marcia nailed this.... Start with your thesis or a key idea, then use a couple short stories/examples that support it, conclude by reinforcing the thesis.... It should almost always be more of a toast than a speech; generally, 3 minutes maximum. The couple and their guests will appreciate focus & brevity! Good luck!

I’ve written a few and I’ve listened to many. My style has always been to go into how I knew the bride, what I loved about her, how I met the groom, what I loved about him and the way he treats my friend, told a few short funny stories, and wished them well. Some of the ones I’ve heard are very heartfelt and some have a ton of jokes, so that depends on your personality type.

I just did one for my sister. I started by introducing myself and saying how grateful I was to have a built in best friend and then a story about us as kids. Then I addressed my brother in law and told him that I was glad he was a part of our family and how I knew that they were a great couple and then addressed them both and told them to always make great memories and love each other and then I had everyone raise their glass and toast the new Mr. and Mrs.

It was short sweet and to the point.