Maid of honor problems

Most posters on WW don't think bridal party gatherings are a good idea. I agree with them. There's no need to get everyone together to go over details. That can be handled through phone calls or texts to each BM/MOH. So she doesn't like one of your BMs. She's free to like who she wants and who she doesn't. If you stop trying to get everyone together and expect everyone to get along, your stress level will decline greatly.

If it wasn't your rehearsal or your wedding day, your MOH isn't required to be there. Your MOH is a person with a life of her own and probably doesn't have time to come to prewedding events all the time. Especially if you've already had two and your wedding isn't until July 2019.

If it really is an interpersonal issue, maybe your can invite your MOH out for a cup of coffee and talk about her concerns, your concerns, and how rectify the situation. I personally would try to address it through a respectful and open minded conversation. You dont want it to become a "thing" that gains momentum and impacts the more critical wedding activities. Its best to resolve it ahead of time, and if you cant resolve it, at least know there is an issue that may become a larger problem later. You dont have to take sides [and probably should not take sides], in order to make your MOH feel heard, understood, and acknowledged. Understand how this is effecting her, and help her understand how it is impacting you. Maintaining a good relationship between the two of you goes way beyond the wedding festivities, and you dont want resentment to grow from stress. But it sounds like it might be a bit early to cut her out. Think about your relationship several years from now, and build on the relationship you have to at least get some form of behavioral peace treaty. You are all adults.

Your wedding is over 14 months away. No more meetings. There's simply no need.

I think you should hear her out for her reasons for not liking the bridesmaid. Obviously she feels a way and just listening to her can help and she won't become mad because your taking sides. She doesn't need to be present you can relay all the information to her separately or you can ask her to facetime/skype in. Everyone won't be best friends but they are adults and should try to facilitate things maturely. I made all my 'meetings' options which was just 1 and then the other 2 were for picking out dresses. If they couldn't attend we went pics or whatever was needed. Don't make anything you do a required task as people have their own lives and if they start to feel overwhelmed or dictated it they will stop responding to you. Don't feed into their drama either and dont take sides. Once they bring up the drama change the subject.