Maid of honor opinionated- Whose wedding is this anyway?

Okay so I don't see the need or reason for another registry, that seems really unnecessary and redundant, especially since you have items of all price ranges on there so there is something for everyone. If you really want to you could always add the option for them to donate money to your honeymoon and just word it in a cutesy way but I honestly think what you already have is fine.

As for your step-daughter, if she was a lot younger I would say maybe but the fact that she is 16 I feel like making her a bridesmaid and all that is just right for the situation. You aren't "marrying" her that is kind of weird but officially becoming family but to me you are already a family and I am sure she knows that.

The important thing is to do what YOU want to do because it is YOUR day!! Just nicely but firmly let your MOH know that you aren't doing this or that or going another direction and that it isn't up for discussion. If it escalates beyond that then that's a different kind of conversation.

I hope you don't stoop to buying your step daughter's affection as your friend suggests. No jewelry is needed. Actually, it is important that she understand she is not marrying you . Your role, though not her mother, will be parental. One family, yes.

You need to sit her down and tell her you have everything planned how you and fiance would like. You appreciate the input but your decisions are final. Then change the subject. This should not anxiety inducing.

Yes I agree with everything that everyone has said. We are not into spending money & I certainly will not be purchasing anyone's affections. I also agree that at 16 the marrying thing is a little weird- maybe if she was a little kid. I think I am going to gently tell her that my FH and I have discussed things & have decided what we are going to do next time this or anything else comes up. Thanks guys!

I think an extra registry is really unnecessary. People can always just contribute certain amounts towards gifts or stray from the registry if the options don’t fit in their budget range. I also think picking her to be a bridesmaid sounds like the perfect way of involving her, but you definitely shouldn’t make any part of the ceremony about her (especially if your FH didn’t suggest it and just your MOH did)

I think the additional registry is unnecessary, people will give you the amount they want to in cash or go in on a gift with someone. Please do not include your STB stepdaughter in your ceremony/vows (I mean in more than a typical way you include a BM, that's very nice that you included her). You are marrying her dad, not her, and i think that suggestion is actually quite creepy.

I would probably just respond with something like "oh, that's an interesting idea, i'll think about it!" or "thanks for the idea, we hadn't thought of that". Easy enough to keep the peace, but not invite more discussion.

I think you need to sit her down and set some boundaries with her otherwise she will be this way throughout the whole wedding process and make you miserable. I don't think you need another registry nor do I think you need to buy the daughter jewelry. Stick to what you want it's your wedding not hers.

Sit her down tell her you appreciate what she is doing, but remind her that you two don’t need much. So unnecessary to have another registry. 2 is always good as long you have all kind of amounts.


She’s 16? Only if you want to give her something else like a special necklace (gave my MoH a necklace she wore at the wedding) , but she’s a bridesmaid I think that’s good enough.
It’s always good to be like thanks for this instead of being all like you pushy and something. Makes it seem like you appreciate her, but shutting her down nicely.

View Quoted Comment Definitely agree with this.
And I wanna add: since your fiance introduced you to her and know her well you should talk to him about this whole mess
The two of you should sit her down to establish some strong boundaries. The bright side: you can see this as good "training" for your marriage: being a united front vs the rest of the world and the fact you have to have each other's back at all times, this is what you promise each other when you want to get married.You shouldn't be afraid to put her in her place when it comes to decisions that are only up to you and your man.