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Just Said Yes March 2014

Maid of Honor not going to Bachelorette Party

jenna, on July 1, 2013 at 1:06 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10

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A friend of mine offered her parents timeshare for my bachelorette party. She didn't want to step on anyones toes so asked me to suggest it to the MOH. When I spoke with my MOH about this amazing offer she immediately stated she couldn't go for financial reasons. I left it alone and said I understood. My MOH is a major drama queen and is always looking for attention so I refuse to feed into it. One month later she sends me a message asking about the timeshare and what was going on with it. Not sure what to do, I don't want to get tangled in her web of "woe is me". She always makes everything about herself, and I am regretting asking her to be my MOH.

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Latest activity by MJ, on July 1, 2013 at 10:23 PM

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vngb · on July 1, 2013 at 1:12 PM
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I'd just tell her "So-and-So offered the timeshare, but based on your initial response I didn't move any further on it. You can talk to her if you still want to move forward with that option, or you can plan something else. I am not able to do any planning for it, but I'm sure that whatever you come up with will be wonderful!"
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Master May 2013
Jamie Q. · on July 1, 2013 at 1:34 PM
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Whats happening? Is the timeshare thing still happening and she wasn't going? Or did she say no so there isnt a bachelorette party planned?

Call her out if you want, but I would tell her the truth and be like based on your response, we thought you werent going.
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Master May 2014
Out the Window · on July 1, 2013 at 1:37 PM
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Who's planning the party? You or another friend? Direct her to whoever's planning and tell her you're not involved (if that's the case).
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Just Said Yes March 2014
jenna · on July 1, 2013 at 1:43 PM
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My other friend took over and is now planning my party.
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Master May 2014
Out the Window · on July 1, 2013 at 1:44 PM
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Done - it's out of your hands. Have her deal with the MOH.
As the bride, you're usually out of the loop when it comes to details of your bachelorette party. You just show up.
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Master June 2014
DlovesD · on July 1, 2013 at 1:46 PM
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I think it probably really hurt her that when she said she couldn't afford it you just passed on the duty to your other friend, without telling your MOH. I know my sister was upset when my SILs had ideas for my party, because she wants to be the one to plan it.

You obviously asked her to be your MOH for a reason. Could you pay her way so she could come?
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Just Said Yes March 2014
jenna · on July 1, 2013 at 2:10 PM
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Thank you for the responses they are very helpful.
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Super March 2014
The Future Mrs. Warfield · on July 1, 2013 at 2:30 PM
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I agree.. no need to stress yourself. Warn your friend that your MOH is drama so she isn't caught off guard. After that look forward to you festivities and enjoy! !!
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Mrs Schmidt · on July 1, 2013 at 2:45 PM
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I wouldn't speak badly of your MOH to any other bridesmaids or friends or family. Your MOH is who she is. So i disagree w/ the above statement of warning your other friend. B/c that will just make a bigger problem...the first comment is the best way to handle the situation.
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Master June 2013
MJ · on July 1, 2013 at 10:23 PM
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I would just move on, let the other friend have the party at the timeshare and let the MOH come or help as she can.
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