Teresa
Devoted September 2020

Maid of honor no dress 1.5 weeks away from wedding

Teresa, on September 14, 2020 at 2:06 AM Posted in Planning 0 12
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Hi all, I just want to vent a little because as you know planning a wedding is frustrating.

I am 1.5 week away from my wedding & my maid of honor does not have her dress yet. I did ask her why and she just said "idk" meaning I don't know.
Is it ok for m to be frustrated or should I just not care at this point? Sh said it might be ready 5 days before the wedding.

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Latest activity by Mcskipper, on September 14, 2020 at 2:00 PM
  • M
    Dedicated May 2021
    Maybride ·
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    Is it just being altered or she literally hasn’t even purchased it yet?? If it’s the latter than I think you need a better explanation!!
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  • Teresa
    Devoted September 2020
    Teresa ·
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    She purchased it already but just has to try it on the day she goes to pick it up.
    2 months ago she had mentioned that she called David's Bridal to get her dress but they told her it wouldn't arrive in wnough time by the wedding so she is having a lady make it for her.

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  • Alma
    Expert October 2020
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    I don’t think you should worry. If she already ordered it, I’m sure she’ll be fine!
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  • J
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    She is an adult. All you can do is wait. She gets it or she doesn't. But I am sorry for YOUR frustration.
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
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    When I see bridesmaid posts like these (which come up often), I can’t help but to question the true closeness and depth of the friendship. I never understand the issues and behaviors of women who were (supposedly) close enough to be invited to stand next to their good “friend” in support. Yet they act like total enemies during something as special as a wedding. It’s really kinda sad! I can’t believe her response was “idk”. I’m really sorry that your MOH is using your wedding to show her true colors. But best wishes with the wedding and I hope it all works out beautifully.
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  • Krista
    Dedicated April 2020
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    Sounds like she is a pretty bad planner but that she is trying. She can’t make the person work faster. That’s super stressful for you, but I’d try to focus on something else. If I were her I’d feel super embarrassed so maybe that’s why the poor reply
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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
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    Did she not order it yet? Or is it in alterations? If its in alterations then I wouldn't be worried about it. But if she hasn't even purchased it then yes that's a problem!

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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
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    Okay I thought I was the only one that thought that lol. However, I will say that sometimes it takes life events to see how family and friends act towards you. I am sorry and truthfully you have a right to be frustrated and I hate to say it, she dropped the ball so if she does not have her dress the day of then she can sit as a guest unless you want her standing by your side and whatever dress she can find on hand. I would be annoyed but I would not let this take away from the happiness of your up coming day.

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  • Teresa
    Devoted September 2020
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    Yes thats so true. We considered each other best friends & she was always there for me before & now she's been a little different. She had also planned my bridal shower & then 3 days before the party she was telling everyone she may need to cancel because of some baptism party her boyfriend invited her to
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  • Melle
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    Dude my bridesmaid did not have her dress until THREE days before my wedding AND it needed alterations aha.

    i totally understand the frustration because they might not understand that we are going thru a lot having to plan things and to have to worry about their attire on top of that is an added stress we don't need.

    i totally understand that it's frustrating but you know what, i learned as long as she has it by the time it's your wedding then that's what counts.

    and i do also see what some PPs mean that this really reflects on their friendship with you because if they took it seriously or cared more, it wouldn't be like this. i 100% felt that too - i had moments where i reflected thinking, man does she even really CARE.

    i knowingly chose my bridesmaid knowing she was a severely unorganized person and extremely chaotic aha. she's a mess. but i love her to death. she's vibrant, she's funny, she's an empathetic person, but she is NOT organized whatsoever and she's always late aha. i guess in the end, sometimes these kind of things don't always reflect on friendship. we are still closer than ever and even though i had really frustrating times with her during my wedding planning, i truly couldn't have imagined anyone else there but her.

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  • K
    Expert October 2020
    Katie ·
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    OMG! It must be a thing then. My sister ordered her dress at the end of August for my October 10th wedding and she ordered 2 sizes too small so that it motivated her to lose weight. We are now 4 weeks out and last I heard it still doesn’t fit. I totally understand your frustration. Keep your mind on other things and let’s hope that all these crazy hiccups work themselves out.
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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
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    Oh this sounds like she may genuinely not know when the dress will be finished. I would presume the dressmaker knows the event date though, so i wouldn’t sweat it. At this point it’s on the seamstress and it doesn’t seem there’s really much MOH can do about it.
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