Maid Of Honor Mental health Breakdown (trigger warning)

Ok this isn’t a common discussion on here but I need advice please! So about a week ago my MOH posted an attempted suicide on Facebook saying “goodbye everyone” and then following up on insta stories with real time videos of here being transported in the ambulance. She overdosed on Xanax then days later admitted to me it wasn’t a real attempt to actually do it and end her life but she was feeling depressed. First off I’m extremely grateful it was not a real attempt and thankful she is starting therapy to help with her depression. Thank goodness.

However you can imagine the ripple effect this causes with her being my MOH & the wedding being 3 months away. Most friends and family saw the post. Excluding older family members and my parents luckily but most people know. I’ve been wondering how to address this altogether after her causing such an extreme scene. I was also in the middle of dress alterations when it went viral and broke down in fear of what was happening and rushed home. So the past week and half I’ve been a wreck with stress and wondering her stability in life in all this and only wanting her to focus on herself. I want her to get better And recover. She also has had selfish friend behavior the last year and never opened up to me about her battle with depression that she has faced with many years. So I’m conflicted about the fact at how well I know her and why she has had these walls up. Over the past year since asking her to be MOH our friendship has become less close too. Which was unfortunate but I was still wanting her to be MOH.

Also In no way have her responsibilities as MOH been stressful. The only thing I asked of her was to help the other girls plan the bachelorette party.


So on that note... I told her yesterday I didn’t feel comfortable with her joining the bachelorette party in a month with all this happening and mental health issues. She backlashes at me that her drinking has never been the problem which I think doesn’t make any since given the circumstance. She definitely should not be drinking and partying with us. My next concern is now there is bitterness from her. She basically wants us all to forget it happened and just go back to normal. But friends and I are worried about drinking with her and Ontop of that how she doesn’t acknowledge how concerned and stressed we all where over this event. She just want to sweep it under the rug.

she also hasnt apologized or even acknowledged how it might have affected her being my MOH. She’s not thinking about all that which I understand if she needs to focus on her wellbeing but because of that I want to kindly and respectfully ask her to please not worry about being MOH or in the wedding and just focus on herself and healing. Thoughts on any of this greatly welcomed and appreciated. Very long post but obviously it’s a tough situation!