Maid of Honor issues🤦🏾‍♀️

She needs to respect your decision of only having her as a bridesmaid.

Although, I can tell you that as a big sister I would also be upset if my sister didn't choose me as her MOH. She will be, but if she didn't I would have to remember that it's her wedding!

Nothing you can do, she has her mind made up.

I think your decision is your own and you should do what you want. It seems like you have a good relationship with her so playing devil's advocate I understand her why she feels upset not being one of the MOH's. I would say her not wanting to help at all is not cool on her part.

View Quoted Comment Yea I told her that. And she said and I quote.. “It’s the maid of honor job”

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You can ask for opinions from the bridesmaid. I do not want to pry but I would question why you chose her to not be an MOH. I have seen grooms do that but usually they have a closer relationship to their friend than their brother. Truthfully I have a half sister that I have little communication with so I would not ask her to be my MOH nor really attend any events but we just do not have much of a relationship. You have your reasons and you need to do what makes you happy but I would smooth things over because I could foresee her being hurt and maybe not being as happy to be in your bridal party as you would like.

View Quoted Comment We don’t have the best relationship. But it’s not bad. She stays 3 hours away from everyone in my bridal party and when I was in a very depressed state.. my MOH and MaOH were there to help me out of it. And also my sister is an attention seeker. She likes to make every situation about her and wants everyone’s lives to revolve around her. She claims that 2 of the women I have in my bridal party shouldn’t be in it and I shouldn’t even be friends with them because she has an issue with them. She still hasn’t talked to me since the day after Christmas.

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Then your reason is justified. You may have an issue with her and if so you can ask her to step down but if those ladies were there for you more then you were right in choosing them. Good luck.

Thankfully I don't have a sister, but my FH has a best friend and brother. He didn't even get a chance to ask his brother necessarily. His brother called him and said well obviously I'm your best man. I think regardless if you're closer to your friends you should have asked your sister or at least explained a head of time what your decision was and why. If I had a sister and she didn't ask me regardless if we weren't best friends I would be very hurt and would feel like I'm not needed or wanted.

View Quoted Comment True. But when it happened the first thing that came out was “I’m your MOH, right?” Not congratulations or anything of the sort. And when I told her that.. she made it seem like it was my fault and I was wrong for not asking her first. I even gave her the reasons of why I didn’t ask her and to her.. I’m still wrong because she can’t have the attention. So now we aren’t even talking to each other.

View Quoted Comment That's definitely not okay of her! I've been receiving so much advice from everyone as I'm sure you have as well. This is your special day and don't let anyone take that away from you!


She will eventually see that she is wrong or maybe this is her personality. I wouldn't like you probably don't want someone making your big day about them.

Keep your friends as your MOH. Friends become family. I chose my sister as my MOH, my wedding is two weeks away and she never did anything to celebrate my engagement. Didn’t put any effort into a bridal shower, bachelorette activity of any kind, it’s honestly very sad and disappointing. All I’ve received from her is pushback re: makeup, Resort destination, dress, shoes. Not once has she been supportive.