Maid of Honor is seriously slacking

If it was me, I'd take her to lunch or coffee, sit her down and ask if she still is comfortable being maid of honor, or if something's going on in your friendship or her life that she's upset about. This change in behavior without any sort of incident seems kind of alarming, and I'd want to get to the bottom of it and make sure everything is ok in the friendship before hammering on her too much about her responsibilities as MOH. If she still wants to do it, THEN tell her to get in gear about the dress! You've picked one out already right? She just needs to order it?

I hate to sound rude, but she is not required to do anything for you besides show up on your wedding day. I'm sorry she isn't as enthusiastic as you would like, but maybe she's just sick of talking about the wedding so much. Maybe go for lunch or have a girls day and talk to her about non-wedding related topics. If you already don't talk much about the wedding, sit down and have a heart to heart with her about what might be going on in her life. Maybe something's going on..

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I thought maybe I was talking about the wedding too much too and then I realized I don't talk about it much. In the beginning she had all these ideas and plans and then they just sort of faded away. I agree something is probably going on but we normally tell each other everything so I'm at a loss why she hasn't said anything.

Hmmm definitely talk to her about it then because if she was excited and planning at first, but now doesn't want to do absolutely anything there has to be something going on. At least you're a good enough friend to pick up on it!

I'm leaving the dress option up to them just so long as it is the color I want and can be worn with cowboy boots. I've even sent her the links to a few dresses I like as a hint hint.

1. Some peeps on here will say all she needs to do is show up, she's under no obligation to do anything else.

2. Are you so excited and busy with wedding planning that's it all you talk about? Ppl can get sick of hearing about it fast. It is true, no one cares more about your wedding than you do. I try not to mention it but on occasion and usually in general terms. Best friend/MOH: "what did you do this weekend?" Me: "I cleaned house and got some DIY's done. If she's interested, she'll ask me what and to send a pic, or she says "cool" and we move on.

3. If she really is a good close friend, ask her if everything is alright, your concerned, Is it something you've said or done. Is it too much wedding? Cuz you can pull it back. Your just excited and want to share it all with her.

If she really is a close friend, just talk to her! Ask her what's going on in her life, and acknowledge that wedding planning can sort of take over, even if you feel that that's not the case. Maybe she can't afford a dress, or has something else going on that is embarrassing for her. I know I can get sucked down into Alice in Wonderland style black holes of wedding planning and not even realize it.

Goodness, I don't have a MOH or bridesmaids but I have friends that I've talked to about the wedding and it shocked me at one point how they don't care !!! I got over it though because I care and my FH and our families care so it doesn't matter any more. My BFF from college is doing all the Bachelorette weekend planning and everything is a surprise so I don't have to worry about anything! Maybe just ask her if she can handle certain tasks if she wants and just let her handle it alone. Us brides can be overwhelming sometimes. She probably felt overwhelmed and wasn't liking that and tried to distance herself somehow. Hope you two get back on track though!