Maid of Honor is being Weird about Bachelorette

Hey guys! i’m having a super difficult time understanding my moh and her reactions to things. i could use some advice!
I planned a bridesmaid proposal dinner a few months ago. It was a blast!! Their boxed proposals turned out great & my mother in law helped cater w her restaurant & helped me pick out a bit of table decor.
Now for the issue, my moh said things like “you’re being too extra.”, “the bridesmaids don’t need gifts.”, “you’re spending too much money🙄”, etc. every time i brought up the dinner (i only talked abt it maybe 3 times)In the middle of the dinner tho, she blurted out that she was going to be planning my bachelorette & i couldn’t do anything to help. i thought that was super sweet!!! i suggested it be at my in-laws pool & she agreed. my bach is the 1st friday of june. a few other bridesmaids told me to suggest a theme to her because she was having trouble thinking of anything. I reached out to her just now & said that if she’s having trouble, id love to have a jungle themed pool party (so we could all dress in animal print bikinis lol). her response was “yeah i think i can do that”. i said to reassure her “just remember if you need any help id love to pitch in or even do the majority of it if you’re too busy” (she’s in nursing school). she told me she was going to be doing it & that i could help, but that i can’t spend much. i said okay & sent her a few inspo pics & what i was going to be giving all the bridesmaids on the day of the bach. she got mad at me & was like “you’re literally stressing over something that’s over 6 months away. don’t buy a ton of stuff” i told her it was just an inspo board & she then told me “okay don’t buy stuff then” & she seemed rlly mean abt it. i told her i know my own limits & that she has been so worried abt my money although she doesn’t know my financial situation & that i feel like she’s being v harsh for no reason. she then told me she just doesn’t want me to spend money bc it my wedding & that they should be giving me gifts & not the other way around?i just don’t feel like giving party favors at my own bachelorette or wanting to buy a few decorative balloons is weird. my friends all have v busy lives & i appreciate that they are putting time away to celebrate w me, so of course i want to give them party favors. why she being so weird about decorating or my party favors? i didn’t ask her to do it & i LOVE planning parties. Am i taking her reactions wrong or am i being weird? idk.