Maid of Honor in Same Dress - All Girls Same Dress? And Updos?

I let all my girls choose different azazie dresses in dusty blue • my MOH carried the exact same bouquet as the other three girls, IMO you don’t necessarily NEED to distinguish her. I literally have zero clue where anyone’s bouquet went after the ceremony so it wouldn’t have mattered if she carried something different • I had my hair down and I let the girls pick their hairstyles; they all chose to wear their hair down or braided or curly. If you require them to have a certain hairstyle or to have their hair professionally done, you need to pay for it. You can’t make it mandatory and make them pay. I gave all my girls option on getting their hair and makeup done professionally.

All my girls dress are the same. They didn't mind because of the good price lol. My MOH still haven't found her dress yet she is the only one with a different dress.

I have yet to figure out when and why brides decided that the women closest to them in life, should all be dressed alike, whether the style suits them or not. Women used to just wear their best dress whether they were in the wedding party or not. Now we want to take away any individualism and we demand they pay for it. I really think we need to adopt the custom in the UK where the couple pays for the wedding party outfits. I'll bet we would see some massive changes in our decision making.

Choose a color, length and fabric and encourage them to choose a style that they feel best in.

Keep in mind that if you decide on a certain style for their hair, you pay for it.

I chose the colors I liked and went shopping with my girls to let them choose something that was flattering for them and they liked. Two of them ended up getting the same dress, but they all loved the same color. As for their hair I let them do whatever they wanted, same for make-up. Everyone looked gorgeous and were comfortable and happy with their looks. Don't over think things and make it harder on yourself.

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My girls are in the same color and material and length. I let them pick the style, they all ended up in different dresses. Heck, in the end they ended up picking the color, they gave me a few to choose from. They are in control of their own hair, make up and shoe. But, I think this is personal choice in how you invision your wedding and your people. My party was more than happy to let me make the decisions.

My girls wore dresses they picked. Fabric was similar and so was length but colors were different. My hair was up everyone else chose their own style. I simple asked no one did theirs the exact same as mine

If you want them all in the same dress, as long as that dress is in their budget, that's fine. (I did let my girls choose their own dress and just gave them a color, length, and material because they have different body types and I wanted them all to feel comfortable.) I'm letting them choose how they want to wear their hair, you can give suggestions, but if you're requiring a certain hair style (and keep in mind it may not look good on everyone) or requiring professional hair styling, you need to pay for it. My MOH's boquet is the same as everyone elses, and as a MOH I never had anything that set me apart from the rest of the BP. Everyone can tell who the MOH is because she stands next to you during the ceremony.

Pick a color and have them pick a specific style, and hopefully the same length. Hair is completely up to them unless you're paying for it, and even if you are, it's their hair. They're already dressing up in what you've initially decided on. Let them have control over their hair.

I personally don't get why the MOH ever needs to stand out. Does the best man get to? Not typically.

Why does your MOH need to stand out? I rarely see MOH looking different than the other BMs.

My 4 girls are wearing mismatched dresses and choosing their own hairstyle

I have 5 bridesmaids including my MOH. They are all wearing the same dress, but MOH's is an entirely different color than the rest. If you want to do something "different" for your MOH, she could possibly wear the same dress with a sash or something. I haven't even thought about my bridesmaids' hair yet...my hair will be up but theirs might be too, it'll be pretty obvious who the bride is so I'm not too worried.

All 3 of my girls had the same dress and all decide on their own to do low up-dos. I told them to do whatever with their hair.

My matron of honor I got a different pair of earring a and necklace for her to wear and the other two wore same jewelry I bought them even though one was maid of honor. Everyone knows who maid/matron is by who is standing closest to you and speeches.

My bridesmaids all wore the same dress, but had different updos. I didn't care about the hair as long as it was up.

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It should be your decision, what you feel comfortable with.

I think its fine to have all the same dress. I will have two bm's and want them to choose different styles from Azazie but same length, color, and fabric.

I think it would be fine if you let your moh have a different bouquet than your bm's - or you could do a different style of dress for her than the others, but same color. But I think bouquet is fine! But as others mentioned I don't think you need to distinguish her in a certain way and she can look the same. I really haven't ever seen a moh stand out if any of the wedding I've been to.

As for hair, I personally want my girls to have the opposite as me - if I wear up then they wear down or vice versa. BUT I honestly choose hair according to the dress! Whatever looks best is what I'll go with but I definitely want our hair to be different regardless if its up or down... but I would like to go with what I mentioned above about opposite of mine as long as it looks good with the dress.

I think it's fine to have everyone in same dress, all mismatched or some the same etc. I've seen it both ways and both look nice, just a matter of personal preference.

As far as hair though, I'm a big fan of having people choose their own hairstyle- simply for comfort reasons! I have extremely thick hair and the one time I was forced to wear a tight updo I was literally miserable.

My girls are all different-ish. All the same length, all with lace, but different dresses. My MOH is in a different color with accents in the color of the BMs. I don't care what they do with their hair, I don't care what shoes they wear (as long as none of them wear flip-flops!), and I don't care how they wear their makeup- I want my 'maids to feel beautiful and confident. If I didn't love them, I wouldn't have asked them to stand with me, so why fuss about the little things?

I picked a color and they picked out their own style of dress. They all have different body types and preferences and I didn't want them wearing something they were uncomfortable or self conscious in.

My girls have options for different dresses, all in the same color. I picked what they can choose from - with a smaller bridal party, limiting them somewhat if you allow them to choose is good. All my dresses have the same skirt, waistline style (natural waist vs empire etc) and are made of the same material, chiffon. I figured this way I could get that "mismatched" look, because I do love it and our wedding is going to be more relaxed, but still have coherency. But even if it's popular, if you don't like the idea, don't do it. Your girls all wearing the same dress, as long as it's nice on all of them, will look just as beautiful.