Maid of honor from hell

Sorry you have to deal with this, OP. But you can't count on someone's promise of money unless it's physically in your hands.

Your wedding is this weekend? Too late to demote her now.. just try to relax and be with people who will be supportive of you. Make sure she isn't in every picture right next to you so you don't have to worry about cropping her out.

Don't you have to pay photo/video in advance? If you owe money while there, just put it on a CC if possible. Forget about her and try to not let her get to you on your wedding day. I wouldn't badger her for money now...and don't feel obligated to be there for her wedding then.

I get the fact that she promised she could financially support and then backed out.... but it seems that your initial reason for choosing her in the first place (it made sense for her to be there for you since you were there for her) as your MOH was a terrible foundation to build on from the beginning.

I really hope it works out for you since it seems that your wedding is coming up, like, now.

Your wedding is Saturday, same day as mine. Has the final balance for the photographer and videographer been paid? If not, what are you going to do?

Your wedding is Saturday. I surely hope you werent planning on her to pay for all those things. Not even sure why you would except that.

Thank you for the feedback. @FB99, I am hurt, because few months ago, she already did her photoshot, engagement and possed as a bride, eventhough not married with a wedding dress. I was totally surprised, because she asked me to search for wedding dressess that suit her needs,(she is planning a second photoshot suddenly) and she is asking me to find bridesmaid dresses for her step daughter and her 2 daughters, and I am in the current process of planing my own wedding. Suddenly she started planing a wedding that might not even happen to be honest with you.

Can you go back and edit your posts? They are pretty hard to read.

I thought it would only make sense to ask my oldest sister to be there for me as I have been there for her (I was her MOH). *Um, no, you ask her because she is your special-ist sister/friend

She told me she would pay for pictures/videography services, as well as makeup. *Did you follow up with her/make sure it was taken care of by her or, more appropriately, you?

She change the dress i suggested, and gave me no noticed. *Oh well, at least she has a dress (see other posts here to the contrary!

And wont be with me the day before the wedding. *What do you need her for?

And she started planning her own wedding and mines have not happened yet! *Is there a grace period?

P.s. she gets engaged and wants to marry everyman she is with *That's her problem, not yours

Just understand she is crazy, let her do her crazy things and ignore them. Tell her you don't have time to look for dresses right now and can a few weeks after your wedding when things settle down (if you want to). Or tell her you're hurt by how she dismissed your wedding and don't feel a need to put any effort into her wedding.

Yes, my wedding is this saturday, destination wedding. Actually makeupartist and photographer rather have their money cash. This is a common practice. Of course there is a written contract of service as proof. My feelings is mostly her behavior and lack of emotional support. I took precautions with her offer, since she started changing her behavior with me. Yes, I will focus on my moment. And I trully appreciate all of your feedbacks.

Are your vendors paid in full?? This is the most important question.

ETA: None of our vendors preferred to have their money in cash. Most requested certified funds for the final invoice. So, I'm not sure this is a common practice.

Thank you for your feedback Nonna, our father is attending the wedding and walking me down the aisle. Because my dad is 76yrs, and flaying to be with us, we already planned to spend that friday together as family. Perhaps let me provide additional info, I just moved to GA, she lives in FL, and my dad lives in P.R. with my stepmom. My sister change of plans was because her new fiance suggested she should visit a family member while he is at the hotel w/o her. No my problem I get it, but is not everyday that you plan your wedding with your elderly dad, that will be there for less than 72 hours

People promise to help you with all kinds of things when you're first starting out in the planning process. Two of my bridesmaids bailed out on helping me when they promised to help me do things. Do I think they're from hell? NO! I was dumb enough to think that they would volunteer time out on a Saturday night to help. I wasn't depending on them, but the help would've been much appreciated. So learn to not expect other people to help you. People enjoy making themselves look as if they're a saint, even if that means lying to a naive bride. If she's asking for your help, don't help her. Simple as that. I'm sorry she screwed you over, but think of this as an unfortunate lesson in not trusting family members. I swear family will screw you over faster than anyone.

Future Mrs. Thank you for the questions. The venue, and decor is paid in full. Photographer and makeupartist dont have an issue. Let me further expplain. In Dominican Repiblic the currency is pesos. When vendor exchanged U.S. dollars for pesos cash, they get to pick the best banks or places that can pay for higher rate. O), yes I will have invoice of services, as record. My wedding is in Punta Cana, Dominican Republic, I know for sure vendors here in the U.S. work differently.

Future Mrs Bennis

I will remember your advice, you are right!

Yep not in the US here, We paid our band/Dj on the night in cash, didn't accepted cheque, photographer cash the day before ( ment to have been the day of but we wanted it out of the way), the hair,MUA and pianist were also cash on the day.

Well, you certainly don't need to be searching for wedding dresses, bridesmaid dresses, and dresses for her daughter during the WEEK before your wedding. That's absurd. Suggest that you will be more available after your wedding (if you want to help her. You have no obligation to help with that stuff).

It was also wrong of her to promise money and then not follow through. I did not get the impression that you *expected* it as pp said. She offered. That isn't the same. Unfortunately, it is a lesson in not counting on money until it is in your hands.

I hope everything works out well on your wedding day!