Hi! I have two MOHs, and they both live out of state. Actually there is only one bridesmaid who lives somewhat close to me. So my FH and I have been going down our checklist and getting things done together. My MOHs have asked a few times how they could help/ what could they be doing/ etc. Which is so appreciated, but honestly I'm not sure what they could be helping with? Has anyone else had to figure this out? How have you handed things off when they don't live close? Are MOH duties mostly day of? I'm afraid to ask them to throw me a bridal shower, because that would be asking them to travel a third time (in addition to the BP, and the wedding).
And on a follow up, I'm having trouble asking other people for help. Not that no one is helping me, it's that my future mother in law and local friends have asked how they can help, but I'm not sure what they could do? What do I hand off without offending MOHs and my family? For further explanation, my entire family is also out of state, and I live in the same city as my FH's family. They are taking care of the rehearsal dinner, which is nice.
Yikes, I hope this doesn't make me sound like a control freak, but I feel stuck.