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Just Said Yes September 2019

Maid of honor backed out.

Katherine, on August 5, 2019 at 5:59 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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I guess technically she hasnt officially backed out yet. So my wedding is A MONTH away 😫😫 and my maid of honor, who i asked over a year ago, just told me she may not have the money to fly out for my wedding. Which i get, if i had the money i would fly her out, we are both our own business owners and we are both stuggling. So i get it if she doesnt have the money, but now im kinda freaking out that i will have 3 bridemaids and my fiance will have 4 groomsmen, one of my sisters would happily step in as maid of honor, but idk if i should just stick with uneven bridal party or try to find another bridesmaid only a month before the wedding. I told my maid of honor if she couldnt come i understood but she needs to let me know for sure ASAP.

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Latest activity by Florida Marlins, on August 7, 2019 at 9:26 AM

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Cher Horowitz · on August 5, 2019 at 6:03 PM
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Keep the bridal parties as is and don't add anyone. If MOH ends up able to come, awesome! If not, uneven bridal parties are totally okay!
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Savvy November 2019
Nichole · on August 5, 2019 at 6:53 PM
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Just have 2 of the guys walk with one girl, it will work out.
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Beginner February 2020
Ciera · on August 5, 2019 at 7:14 PM
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I would give her a date she needs to let you know by, a hard deadline, and let her know if she can’t come you will miss her but your sister is gonna step in. Let your sis know now that this is a possibility
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Sinéad · on August 7, 2019 at 7:22 AM
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Hey Katherine! I’m so sorry that it is a possibility that your MOH cannot attend your wedding. You are handling the situation really well, but that still doesn’t make it easier for you, so I’m sorry!
I think that if she cannot attend, having an uneven bridal party is totally fine! What is important is that you have selected the people who are standing beside you because they love and support you, not that there is an even number.
Do you know when you will know for definitely whether your MOH will be able to fly in?
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Florida Marlins · on August 7, 2019 at 9:26 AM
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Just keep everything as is, call your bridesmaids "attendants" and do not "promote" one BM to MOH, it is insulting that you did not ask her in the first place. If my sister had a long time friend as a maid of honor and me as a maid, then asked me a month before to step in I would be insulted!! Do not search for another maid, as again, "Hey I was never gonna ask you but someone dropped out and now I have uneven numbers. Would ya, could ya?"
Uneven numbers are just fine - I had two and my hubby had one. No biggie.
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