Maid of honor backed out 8 weeks before wedding!'

Did you already buy her dress, gifts, ect? That's terrible...

...So, have uneven sides. It's not a big deal. Unless all you care about is pictures and not the friends you have standing up next to you.

Lurkers, look, things come up, life happens. Your wedding is not the centre of other people's universes. Feel disappointed, have a cocktail or a glass or wine, vent to your FH, then get on with it. Having uneven sides will not make you less married at the end of the day!

A true friend doesn't drop out as MOH via a Facebook message.

You could have another friend of a gf of a groomsman that you talk with be in it and maybe see if one of your other bridesmaids would step up as moh status. I'm sorry your going through this I could imagine how stressful that is. You could ask a brothers gf or one of your cousins

Sounds like more is going on

Agree with PP. It's a hurtful thing to go through all that just to have your HONOR attendant , no less, pull out for what sounds like a BS excuse. That's not cool. However, not much to do about it right now. I wouldn't think of friendship repercussions yet because maybe there's more to the story. For now, relax. Enjoy the girls you have.

Rebekah, we tell people NOT to replace MOHs/BMs. There's no point. You pick your nearest and dearest to be your MOHs/BMs, once you replace them, you basically tell them that they are nothing but props for photos.

I'm sorry your friend won't be able to make it! Try to be understanding though, she may have something else stressful going on in her life.

You don't need to do anything now though. Just move on with the bridal party that you already have. Sides don't have to be even!

Sounds like she's looking for excuses/has a really in control husband, very unfortunate, sounds like a lie. I think that's very rude, but if I were you maybe then turn to your family member to step in to fill that role.

Yeah definitely don't replace her. What a bummer though that she's not being a good friend, especially since she's your best friend! There's not much to do except maybe reach out to her and tell her you're hurt she won't be joining in your day and hope she'll reconsider.

Thanks ladies! Yeah, I'm more hurt she's not going to be there because most of my friends can't make it because it's expensive, so I was really looking forward to having her there as my MOH. I don't mind that the sides are uneven so much, anyone have any good ideas for pictures and introductions with uneven sides? Maybe a bridesmaid gets two groomsmen as an escort?

Just have uneven sides. It's way more upsetting that such a close friend won't be there to celebrate at all. I am really sorry.

I would tell her that you are really hurt and you wish there was a way she could be there. Her husband seems like a peach....I worry this is one of those friendship ending things.

Oh, and Jessie, I know my wedding isn't the center of other peoples universe. But for a best friend to back out via fb messenger, when she lives right by me, just seems pretty unfriendly. She is the only one I'm upset with and its more with how she told me.

Im so sorry to hear anout your "friend" dropping out. Dont replace her, Im sure everything will still be beautiful.

On another note... This is solidifying my desire to not have a bridal party! Smh

I understand Marie, but you have to understand too that we see several "My BM/MOH/GM backed out, how do I replace them?" posts a week. It was more a note to lurkers. Also, if you note, I did say it's alright to feel disappointed. However, since this is something out of character, maybe you should pick up the phone and ask your friend if anything else is going on in her life. Step out of your wedding for a few minutes and be her friend.

I'm so sorry that happened. And very strange and sad such a good friend let you know via FB.

As for uneven sides, you can always have the bridal party walk in one at a time. (No groomsmen escorting bridesmaids)

So you get married and go on with life. Yes, it sucks, but oh well. The wedding is about you and your groom so it will be okay!

Doesn't sound like much of a friend to me, especially backing out over Facebook. I wouldn't even bother trying to replace them, because then it looks like you just need fillers, and that doesn't make people feel good either. I'm sorry that you are going through this though. =/