Maid & Matron of Honor Question!?!??!

I also have a maid and matron of honor. The 3 of us grew up together so we are all close to each other. I'm having my maid of honor stand closest to me and sign my marriage certificate. They are going to give a joint toast.

Maid of Honor does all the traditional duties during the ceremony and stands closest to you, then Matron of Honor. I have both and have been a maid of honor in a wedding that had both, too. They both should be planning the parties together and they both get to do a speech if they want to. I hate speaking in front of people so I let the matron of honor do the speech and then said "Yup! Love you!" after she was finished. At my engagement party both MOHs did speeches.

I have 3 matrons (my best friend of 20 years and my two cousins) and 2 maids (my two best friends from high school) of honor. My matron (best friend of 20 years) will stand closest to me and sign my marriage certificate, and I will let any or all of them say something at the reception if they want. It's totally your personal preference

Go with Maid for the "traditional" things. I know it's hard to choose between them, but if one really is a Matron, then she'll know all about etiquette and understand from her own wedding.

I've never heard of the "etiquette" of having the maid plan all the traditional stuff over the matron. That makes no sense to me. My two younger sisters are my matron and maid of honor. The matron is planning the bachelorette and a shower for us since she is more of the planner. She'll also stand next to me at the ceremony aince I'm slightly closer to her over my other sister. The maid (youngest sister) will hold my bouquet while the matron (middle sister) is in charge of keeping my train arranged. They've both expressed interest in giving a speech. The youngest sister and I shared MOH duties at the middle sister's wedding and pretty much did the same things that they are now doing for me. Talk to both of your MOHs. They can totally plan a joint shower or bach and they can most definitely give a speech. If you want to be fair, you could always ask a family member to sign your marriage license (if a witness is even necessary) so you don't have to choose one MOH over the other.

Have you talked to them about it? They may be more interested in some things more than others. For example, I'm in my sister's wedding as a bridesmaid and will be planning her bridal shower for the most part. Her MOH is more interested in planning the bachlorette party. Or they may co-host everything together. I did that with my friends mother for her baby shower.

I just asked them about the details separately and it worked itself out