Luncheon Advice

What will the rest of your guests do while you are eating lunch? Are you expecting them to wait for you? Eat lunch on their own? Not eat lunch at all? It’s incredibly inconsiderate of you to have a large gap wedding so you can enjoy lunch with only a few of your guests.

This is rude. Why do you need to eat separately with family? What would your guests be doing while you're eating, and they're hungry?

If I found out this was happening at a wedding I was attending, I wouldn't even bother attending the reception. I understand family is important, but so are the rest of your guests.

V confused about this

So a reception before the reception? Extra extraaaa!

Idk if anyone will admit to watching Jersey Shore on MTV (and I don't blame you lol), but this reminds me of the "shirt before the shirt".

Aside from being rude AF .. this is a little much. You don't need a lunch and dinner after the ceremony. Not enough time in the day. Have a rehearsal dinner to satisfy this fantasy.

I know where I'm from the time between wedding and reception is usually when pictures are

First of all, please feed your guests. They'll be hungry, some of them will be far from home, and it's not fair to expect them to forage for themselves while you take your favorite people to lunch. I totally understand wanting some special time with your family, but smack dab between the ceremony and reception just isn't ideal for that. Maybe meet your family for brunch next day?

I don't think you need a menu for your reception meal, so long as it's all pretty easily identifiable, but I do think you should offer at least one choice for entrees. You could give everyone the same starter (something fairly universal like a nice garden salad) and then offer a choice of chicken or ravioli or something similar. And then a universal dessert like white cake. That way, if someone has a food sensitivity to your choice of main then they'll still be able to eat.

Let me be honest your guest won't be there when you return. This is rude !

I'm confused, why would you eat before the reception? wouldn't everyone just eat at the reception?

Wow this has to be a joke.

@FutureMrsG they are doing a reunion season. (No shame)

@op what time is your ceremony that you have time for lunch? I assume there is still time after lunch? Before you start eating again at the reception?

Are you getting married in the morning, having lunch with your family and then dinner with your guests? That is a very long day. Or are you having an afternoon reception and not feeding most of your guests? That would be rude.

I cant stop laughing at this, she must have typed it wrong. There is no way someone could think this is ok.

@OGK aside from it not being ok, I can't see how this is feasible to someone.

Is a rehearsal not good enough? Or a day after brunch?

Sorry OP this idea sounds ridiculous.

So your guests are going to wait around while you enjoy a nice meal behind closed doors with the "important guests"?

Gross.

I'm not sure how this would go over with your guests and the flow of the day. There are many other opportunities to celebrate with a smaller group - like a rehearsal dinner.

The only way this is even remotely non-rude is if you're doing a private ceremony with JUST the immediate family (as in siblings and parents) and doing a big reception later on. In that case it shouls be a simple light meal.

Honestly, I don't see the point, and if you're thinking that everyone will go to the ceremony and then hang around until your 'more important' guests have a meal, think again. That is a horrible rude and unworkable idea.

I . . . I don't understand . . .

Please come back and explain.

More info please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm confused.