Love Language

His love language are Acts of Service and Quality Time.

Mine are Gifts, Physical Touch, and Quality Time.

The only one that might cause 'problems' is the physical touch. Only because I'm big into cuddling and snuggling (aka spooning on the couch watching tv). While he'd rather sit next to one another and hold hands or have his hand on my thigh. We both LIKE physical touch, but I'm drawn to snuggle up while he'd rather keep a little space to be comfortable!

He's also not big on gift giving for special occasions and holidays, while I am. He's more frugal and won't tell you what he REALLY wants for a gift, while I have to know exactly what he wants. I usually pester him until he gets annoyed with me😂 so that's something I'll have to work on!

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See that's my husband in our relationship lol I like cuddling during bedtime but he is constantly on and touching me all day lol. I don't mind it but I also don't NEED it, so I get your fiancé lol. My husband and I are constantly surprising each other with gifts just because and on occasion, but that just comes natural I guess. But it's weird because that was neither of our languages!

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That's so funny because he HATES cuddling at bedtime. I have to have my hand touching his arm or something to be able to fall asleep well but loooord if I touch his neck or too far up his chest😂 He freaks out! That's super sweet that you both do that! My FH will randomly bring home flowers or a candy bar for me 'just because', and sometimes he'll come home and ask me if I want to have a date night that night/weekend. I like that being together brought out a different love language in you both! So sweet!

Yes we have different love languages. Mine is words of affirmation and quality time while his is acts of service. No, it hasn't caused any issues

My husband is an acts of service type and i find myself to be well rounded. sometimes there are conflicts where i wish he would be able to show his love in other ways but overall, i appreciate everything he does.

Mine is Quality Time and Words of Affirmation

Ryan's is Physical Touch and Words of Affirmation

so far it has worked out well...we discussed this on our 2nd date together, so we knew over 2 years ago, (we have been dating for 2 years, 3 months now) to work on these, and be intentional with expressing our love to the other in a way that the other feels loved. The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman is such a help! I wish every dating couple would read this!!

We have somewhat different love language. He bought me that book to read, but he just can’t change his way to make me feel loved. I mean I know he loves me, but I am desperately want him to show me the way I need it 🤷🏻‍♀️

View Quoted Comment Omg I love random date nights 🥰. & maybe he will just start cuddling one day and throw you completely off 🤣

View Quoted Comment Is there one language that you think fits you most?

View Quoted Comment Expressing your love in your partners language is sooooo important ❤️

View Quoted Comment Have you guys talked about the different love languages? My husband and I took the online quiz together and that's how our discussion started

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I would say if i had to choose one then i'm words of affirmation.

My fiancé and I have different top love languages. But we’ve made it a mission to become fluent in both. We occasionally ask each other if we’ve filled each other’s love tanks that day/week and it has helped. We’ve also read the five love languages book together which has helped tremendously

My husband and I both have the same: physical touch and quality time. Never had a problem since they are the same and we are able to give each other what we need. Lots of kisses, hugs, cuddles, intimacy & date nights n trips taken for the two of us

View Quoted Comment He was the one who bought me the book. We did the quiz. I know his, he knows mine. He just can’t give me what I need, and no, I am not talking about gifts. We spoke a lot about this and I felt like I am asking too much. I think it is how he was raised and also character thing.

I would say we both share Affirmation (it's rare we use each other's names, even in public), and Quality Time, while my other is Physical Touch and his is Acts of Service.

I canNOT keep my hands off him. I'm constantly running my hands through his hair, we only stopped holding hands so much because of the pandemic (just trying to keep hygienic while outside), and he sometimes calls me a cat, because I'll headbutt him (gently), or hijack his typing arm to cuddle.

He, on the other hand, does 99% of the cooking, is an excellent nurse, and has taken over the laundry runs (our local laundromat has restricted occupancy right now). (Not to mention the trash, the recycling, and so on.)

View Quoted Comment That's great! Learning each other's love languages is so important, especially when you have different ones!

View Quoted Comment That's great that you have the same love language because you automatically know how to fulfill each other's needs!

View Quoted Comment Yes it works!

View Quoted Comment 🤨 he just CAN'T give you what you need? I don't think asking to be loved how you want to be loved is asking for too much. It's actually necessary for a marriage to work. But goodluck with everything!