Lost interest :(

Im really sorry you are feeling this way. Maybe try taking a week or weekend off of planing go on a date night with your FH with no wedding talk. And then I know it’s easier said than done but try to the negativity in ppl pushed aside. Don’t let them ruin this beautiful time between you and your FH.

I went through the same thing. We almost called off the wedding and then realized financially that was not an option. I get married in 15 days and am not at all excited. I am dreading seeing my FIL's after how they treated us during planning and I'm just trying to focus on getting though the wedding. I am excited about being on a cruise with my FH as his wife and am using that to get me through. I hope things turn out differently for you and you get excited again! It sucks having that taken away!

The funk around 6 months out is a very real thing. Try focusing on other things for awhile. Think about the things you used to enjoy but then stopped doing because wedding planning took over, then go do those things and swear of wedding planning and wedding planning talk for at least a month. When people ask you (incessantly...) "how's the wedding planning going?" smile and tell them "oh, fine, but I'm trying to make sure it doesn't over my life... what's new with you?"

When you come back to it later down the road, it'll be more fun again.

We have had family drama since the day FH and I got engaged. It started off with FSIL storming out of the house a little while after FH proposed. (it was our house warming when he popped the question!) Then I did not want her in the wedding party and that caused a problem. Then his mom fought with FH, my mom and me. I have a very very very very long story of family drama. To the point that FSIL is not talking to either me or FH and she is not coming to the wedding. (her words. we told her she is more then welcome to come.) But it is has not once has it gotten to me.

I just keep reminding myself the day is about us getting married and spending the rest of our lives together. I also remind myself and FH there are so many other people in our lives that are excited for us we can just ignore their negativity. It is only two people in our lives that are not happy. We have gone to therapy over it and that has helped a lot. We have now realized those people are only happy when they are miserable and when they are bringing everyone down with them. This is the happiest day of our lives (until kids) and I am going to have the best damn day of our lives with or without them!

I feel like that happens when all the big stuff comes together and it is too early to finish the details and you are kind of in limbo. It will pass!

We had a similar situation recently. We found out a friend’s wedding is the same day as ours. We have people in our bridal party that committed to both without realizing. I had multiple people cause negativity and my best friends say the wouldn’t support me unless I changed the date. All this was devestating, and I wanted to call it off. But at the end of the day I know I have to focus on my FH and I. The day is about us and celebrating our love. We don’t want people there who feel like they have to be. Just focus on your relationship and the meaning behind the day!! Best of luck and hope the excitement returns because after 11 years it is truly something to celebrate!

I went through the same thing around that time. I’m almost 3 months out and I finally started getting excited again. Honestly the best thing to do is not push it. If you’re not behind on this don’t stress.

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I dunno... it's a year away. Wouldn't you rather have your VIPs there than to make them choose, if you can change dates?

Thanks for the kind words you guys! Wedding planning has been smooth sailing this whole time, and really hasn’t occupied too much of my time overall. Our venue handles a lot of stuff for us, so it hasn’t been too stressful. The drama we encountered has nothing to do with the wedding directly. Some feelings came out, directed at FH from some of my relatives and it just really bummed me out. At the end of the day, I don’t really care if my aunt or cousin like FH or not, but I haaaaaate thinking they’ll be at the wedding silently judging tf out of him while pretending to be happy for us.

Yes! I just posted yesterday about being in this funk! It truly SUCKS. I’m close enough that everything major is planned and far enough away that I can’t really handle any small details yet. It’s so annoying. Sometimes I’m like oh it’s only 5months away! And other times I’m like... it’s an entire two seasons away (spring and summer).

I think it's a normal stage, it happened to me as well, and didn't go away until the morning of my wedding.

View Quoted Comment Absolutely! We’ve spent weeks researching and talking to the vendors we’ve booked. Unfortunately, we’d lose a few big deposits and our venue only has open dates starting in June. We live in Florida so a June wedding would be miserable. So we are just thinking positive and hoping it all works out! Thanks for the comment!

Ugh, totally going through this now! The family drama is really upsetting, especially when people use the wedding to try and hurt you. We just found out FHs cousin said he won’t come to the wedding unless he is a groomsman (long story), and other cousin and her BF just told us that someone said they weren’t even invited to the wedding because of a situation that didn’t even have anything to do with FH and I. People who aren’t involved in the wedding at all are spreading rumors already 😂 And that’s just the tip of the iceberg when it even comes to family drama. I used to let things bother me A LOT, but I realized recently that someone else’s problems are not my own, and that anyone who doesn’t want to be there can just RSVP no to the wedding. Simple as that. Every time I hear about drama now, I just tell the person that I am paying for them to come and celebrate our marriage, and if they don’t want to then they don’t have to come. We’ll miss them, but it’s going to be an amazing day still even if people don’t come. Maybe we’re better off without them!

Sorry to hear you're feeling this way, I hope this turns around for you. October is a ways off so I have hope this will all be a distant memory for you by then! Other posters suggested taking some time off from wedding planning to re-connect with your FH and I highly recommend doing that! It will remind you why you want to get married in the first place (because you love your man)! Good luck, remember that things will get better for you!

Actually, I just went through a funk like this! Future MIL was angry because I hadn't "consulted" her on all of the details (mind you she isnt paying for any of it, my parents are). My FH talked to her and worked things out, and then we went out to dinner (all of us) to smooth over all the hurt feelings. Maybe reach out to those people, see if you can fix the situation? If not, remember it's your and your FH day...don't let anyone bring you down!