Lost friends

Friendships evolve and sometimes end or fade away. This will happen throughout your life. It takes lots of effort on both sides for friendships to be maintained long distance. Sounds like it's time to make new friends in your new city.

But also work on reconnecting with your old friends where you used to live. It will take some combination of regular texting/phone calls/Zoom calls/plans to visit (difficult during COVID of course) to rekindle and keep the friendships alive. But it will only work if both parties put in equal effort, and some of them may not feel up to that.

And remember to do this without your wedding as the priority/reason for reconnecting. Having bridesmaids is not the goal; having lifelong friends is the goal.

Don't let it get to you or get you feeling down. If they are any type of true friend, 1) they would reach out to you and stay in communication with you to where it wouldn't potentially be one sided. 2) Friends most definitely say such things like that. If they feel concerned about the situation of you getting engaged, one should know a much better way to say and address it with you.
I cannot say that I completely understand what you're going through, but I can somewhat understand.
When I got in engaged to my ex-husband, I moved 4 hours away from all my family and friends, to an state/area that I did not know let alone people I didn't know. The only people I knew, was his family. So it took a major toll on me, trying to plan a wedding and not knowing any place, anyone and not having my family there to help or be apart of the planning....I fell into a major depression because of it.

Years later our relationship/marriage ended in divorce and when I moved back home it felt as though I didn't have any friends. It always affected me that I couldn't just call someone up in order to say "hey, let's go hang out", but in due time with lots of patience I can now say that I do have friends. They are people that I actually went to high-school with and didn't associate with back then, they are friends of my fiance but didn't hesitate to take and consider me to be a friend as well.

Don't dwell in the the bad thoughts, it won't help as it will only bring you down. I know you said that your fiance has friends, but do they have a g/f or fiance that you could try and start talking with in order to get to know to be friends?

I understand it hurts, but please don't think badly about yourself, as it is not your fault and you're not a bad person or failure. You decided that this man is who you want to be with and who makes you the happiest. You sacrificed a lot by moving hours away from who you know, but if you felt it was worth it then you did the right thing. Have you discussed your feelings about all this with him? What about the possibility of you two going out in order to mutually try and make new friends together?
You will make new and better friends, they are out there!

I am in a very similar boat. I have lost my friends due to moving multiple times during high school and because I left their religion (which is a bigger deal than it sounds). I have become good friends with FH's friends and we hang out semi-regularly but it's not quite the same as having girlfriends. I struggled to find bridesmaids and one of my 2 bridesmaids is my cousin who I am not at all close to and she has caused a lot of stress but whatever I don't want to stand up there by myself lol. I agree with the comment above that you shouldn't try to find friends to have a bridesmaids, but rather to have as friends. I am working on finding new friends and it is a big struggle as I've never really had a close friend or group. You're not alone in feeling like this!

I completely understand where you are coming from. It's hard but sometimes you just have to distance yourself and let them go. I recently had to cut of a friend who out of nowhere has becoming increasingly Jealous and Envious towards me and acts very insecure when she is around me. It became a competition with me because she always felt the need to try and one up me, make snide comments, always talking about herself and anytime I would be talking she would cut me off and switch the topic back to herself. It was becoming draining and her behavior is extremely toxic. She had the nerve to question me why I bought a new car she made it seem like I did something wrong by buying a car. It's a shame because she never use to act like this until she started hanging around a mutual acquaintances who is a known narcissist.