Lost all motivation to plan

You sound like you are stuck in a rut. I was there not too long ago - my job is SUPER busy and I have been getting promotions which mean more responsibility and stress. I was working nonstop - my life WAS work (still is) and I was fighting with FH a lot. I honestly just had to take a step back, a deep breath and talk to a therapist. After 1 session I felt better...

however what rekicked my excitement for the wedding was other peoples excitement. My friends are amazing (my briesmaids) and they are SUPER excited for my wedding so by them constantly asking to help plan and getting all giddy saying "I cant wait for your wedding" it has helped me stay excited and want to plan.

I hope you feel better soon and get your "wedding mojo" back.

I had the same problem and was stuck on finding a venue. So what helped me was to take a couple days off. From planning, work, and school. (if possible) and try and have couple nights together just you and him with no wedding talk an hopefully no fighting. Then when your stress levels have gone down try and pick one wedding topic (church vs. Venue or what time etc.) and just briefly discuss that topic. Let him hear your ideas and listen to his. This way you both get to hear the other side and think about it for a little bit. Once you decide on that topic then move on to the next.

Hopefully that helps...

DON'T! If it's becoming a burden- stop planning. Take some time off! Talk to your FH, and decide you will not discuss wedding for 2 weeks.

Once those two weeks are up- you can think about it again. But until then, focus on the REASON you are getting married, not the actual act of getting married.

Hehe don't worry, same thing happened to me in the beginning too. After I booked the venue, bought my dress and book the caterer, I sorta just sat around for a couple of months...until maybe 4 months until my wedding, that's when all my motivation came back. Have you gone dress shopping yet? That's the funnest part!!!

I felt the same way too! I have 9 months to go and it's been one hell of a roller coaster ride! I've booked most of my major vendors and now I'm kinda relaxing a bit.. although I know you can't stop planning. Just take breaks here and there. You need it.

In the beginning, I was so stressed about finding a venue. A lot of places were booked when I started looking and I didn't want to end up choosing something I couldn't afford. I came across some idiot vendors that are unprofessional and I even got so stressed that I was sick for a few days! In the end, we found our venue, photographer, cake vendor, officiant, wedding dress, stationer, florist, etc.

There will be arguments and disagreements, but trust me, it will work out. and if it doesn't, just vent about it here. I found that this website has a lot to offer, support and ideas from other brides going through the same stuff, a wedding website, and a bunch of other vendor info.

I went thru this before.... I was stressed, fed up and just didn't want to do anything wedding... I took some time off - I took a month - you can take however long you think you will need.... and then I started back up and I'm enjoying it now.

I have about the same amount of time you do and went through the exact same thing. I agree that taking some time off from planning is the way to go. We took a couple weeks off and made plans to hang out with friends we hadn't seen in awhile. I also made plans to just hang out with my MOH and relax. It totally helped!! What the other gals have said is totally true.... sometimes being around people who are excited for you is the best medicine. The little break we took did wonders for our planning rut. Hang in there... you've got time and lots of friends here! :-)

I was getting more stressed over all the checklists/timelines out there online telling us what to do and when. Once we had a venue/date set, I kind of took a long break. Then I did one thing at a time, focusing my attention/motivation on that until it was done.

Don't let anyone tell you that you're waiting too long for your dress either! A lady at one shop gave me a guilt trip about me waiting until 6 mos. prior to our wedding date, but then when I brought it up at another bridal shop, they said, "that's awful that she said that! we can certainly get you your dress in less time than that!" and it was SUCH a diff. experience.

I agree with other ladies here -- take time to be with your FH and just be you. Stress from everything else can make you upset with each other more often (my FH and I have been snippy with each other a lot this past year, and I'm about ready to say "let's take a vacay and just be us again"). Hang in there! It DOES get better!

I definitly went through this actually not very long ago ... and I took 2 weeks off like Meghan suggests and we just did us stuff again, went to a street festival, a concert, out to dinner/drinks and now I feel much better and things are coming together ...

Thank you ladies for your suggestions! I had a bit of a crying fest in front of my FH (that means future husband, right?) the other night, and he told me that I'm taking on a lot at once and said I'm actually handling it well. We had a nice night after that and just relaxed and cuddled together. I think I was PMSing a bit and feel a little more motivated again, since my mood is better.

I'm pretty sure we're having everything at the venue, although he's concerned there might not be the best places for pictures. We also have to settle for an earlier event: 5pm ceremony and 5:30-10:30pm reception. We both had thought it would end between 11pm and midnight, since most of the weddings we've been to have ended then.

Most venues are only open until a certain time unless you are willing to pay for over time. Ask your venue how much to let the party continue until 11 - 12am, and if you can swing it, then consider it. If they do allow it, its always cheaper to plan it in advance rather than deciding last minute.