Losing steam And feeling overwhelmed

Yes!! Jiliane I am slowing down as well I kno how u feel about DB and yes those dresses did feel cheap to me as well by the way lol except 1 Vera Wang dress. The bridesmaids dresses can u post what shade u want exactly I probably have some saved in my phone lol. My FH isnt as interested because he thinking about how much money will be spent on time of our everyday bills and we need a new car BUT our wedding isnt until Aug 2021.

Trying to color match his suit. Most websites have a “dark navy” which ends up looking black in comparison. DB has a “marine” blue which is close, and cheaper than most places. I ordered swatches from Dessy because they had more blue options. But they’re WAY more expensive and I don’t know if my maids will go for it.

No. I’m not feeling that way. But I think that there’s so much pressure put on wedding planning and it doesn’t have to be that difficult. When things start getting expensive, seek alternatives. You don’t have to use a lot of flowers... small simple arrangements with votive candles look very nice ( or even no flowers at all in three different height pillar candles in glass cylinders). I see a lot of brides on WeddingWire making bouquets out of higher-quality artificial flowers. So that’s an option. Also, maybe look into having bridesmaids dresses made out of the right color of dark blue fabric instead of searching in stores/online. That way you can also get the style you want. Another thing to keep in mind... when finances are tighter, compromise needs to be increased . So it’s possible that you won’t get the exact photographer that you want. But you’ll still get someone who can take nice pictures and not charge us much.

Slow down! Wedding planning is overwhelming but it is supposed to be fun!! I personally did it one task at a time- I didn’t even consider dj’s while I was looking for a photographer- one task at a time. Check out bridal shows in your area, they have a lot of vendors and you can see what kind of deals they offer. And every time I got stressed my FH would say stop for now this is supposed to be fun.

It’s so hard and just know that even girls who paid for a planner still experience stress. I don’t have a wedding planner but I know someone who does and she’s still stressed! When is the big day? Azazie has a wide variety of blues ! I also looked at department stores too. For the flowers, I was able to find a florist that was reasonable compared to others. Some grocery store florist departments do wedding flowers too! Or you could order silk flowers online. I’ve seen lots advertised that do look real !
I would try to let go of the venue coordinator feelings. She/he deals with lots of people and if the venue is the one you signed a contract with then you’ll have to make it work.
Ask your bridal party to help you look over some things. Crossing a few things off the list or printing a timeline off the internet might help you feel more on track.

I feel you!!! I'm 35 days out & should be in a much much different space than I am! Try to find the fun & joy in it 1 day at a time as best you can, celebrate the gains! I will have done it all in 7 months, it's been quite overwhelming at times, no lie. Theres no wrong or right advice, take what you think will work & do your best & it will be great!

Flowers: samsclub pre-made wedding collection, that's what I am doing as adviced by a few in my circle. It turned out great for them!

BM dress: got mine from Stylefun on amazon. I recommend ordering all at once as 1 of my BM had an ordering issue vs the others on her color. https://www.amazon.com/Stylefun-Bridesmaid-Dresses-Evening-Pockets/dp/B07PG677W9/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=stylefun+women%27s+halter+bridesmaid+dresses+slit+2019+formal+prom&qid=1571537172&sprefix=stylefun+&sr=8-1

Photography: a long time family friend of the groom is providing; my nephew got married in June & someone from his new wife side from church took great photos.

DJ is a friend.

Ceremony music is a HS protege.

Consider offering to print a section for them for "advertising" on your program...my vendors are cool with the idea

I do something each day that taps into my excitement to balance out the planning mayhem. Congrats!

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Have you tried Azazie? i lucked up. wedding is in 3 weeks and yeah i am stressed and exhausted. everyone that said they would help are NOWHERE. good luck with everything

Hi,

I can totally relate!! My wedding is in Jan and I'm completely overwhelmed. I've found myself crying time and time again. My wedding expenses keep piling up. My fiance isn't much help either, he just started a PhD program and he's working full time so I can only bother him but so much. I don't have a wedding planner but my friend bought me wedding planner book. It's helpful because it made me think of things I had no clue about like a guideline for my registry (which I still haven't completed btw). I just found that I've cut my costs on things that aren't as important to me like the transportation for the day of. I can do without riding in a limo or fancy car. I didn't have an engagement party (I have enough on my plate). I've decided to make it a NO KIDS wedding. I'm not staying at the fanciest hotel the night of the wedding because I'll be going on a short cruise a few weeks later. The guest list has been my biggest headache! At the end of the day it's your special day and all the research and time planning will be worth it. Good luck!

p.s. working out has helped me release some stress maybe you can try yoga or kick boxing

Don’t waste $ on real floral! Make your own from silk flowers from hobby lobby! Wait till they go on sale 40% off. It’s frequent that they go on sale. Support your fiancé in his school endeavors and try to understand his absence. Ask family and friends to help with the extras. Also post on Facebook asking for an affordable photographer but if anything spend your $ there because you’ll want good quality photos that last forever! As far as the bridesmaids dresses go, if you’ve looked and looked it’s okay to do a different color that goes! I wound up in that situation and went with a color that actually turned out so pretty! Take a deep breath! And try your hardest to enjoy this and make it a happy time! Hope this helps.

I’m getting married in 20 days and I almost had a mental breakdown about a week ago. The people who offered to help ... ended up being the pain on my neck. Some people from my wedding party backed out, some wanted a different color & some haven’t even ordered their dresses yet!!!! Ugh! Mind you, I have 2 kids, 2 businesses, a mom that was diagnosed with a heart failure 2 mos before the wedding and a full time job on top off the wedding planning. Anyway, the bottom line is... I know I have to get it together... I made a check off list of what is needed to be done and I made sure that my fiance is aware of it. I ordered the invitation cards from Amazon, but made the content of it on my own. Bridal gowns are expensive because they are “bridal”. So... I bought a white quinceneara dress to make my sparkly dream wedding gown affordable and ended up saving $9K. I found most of my vendors through facebook & instagram. I read a lot of reviews. I used Pinterest to put all of my ideas together. I saved a lot from wish.com. I bought my veil from there for $20 (it was $600 at the store!) If u buy stuff from there, just make sure u read reviews first. I would advice u to keep track of ur budget and ur to do list. Focus on the ones that are most important to you. This is ur wedding, dont rely on other people because u dont wanna be disappointed. Let ur future husband know what u need help with... men need us to spell it out for them so they cant say “thats not what u said”. You can do this! Goodluck!

Hello,

Do you have a wedding planner to help assist you? If not your best friend or someone important to you should be able to help balance your thoughts with other ideas, just keep in mind that you don't want too many opinions in your ear. That day is all about you and your fiance... Take one project at a time if you have the location and the dresses are an issue then tackle that first and eliminate each one off your list and only choose things that you love and not like. I'm getting married on April 4, 2020 and my fiance is in the military and on a mission and won't return until January I'm a wedding planner so I get it!!! Good luck to you, you got this!!!!!

Elizabeth

Sorry you’re feeling so stressed! You should take a step back and breathe!
As for photographers, do you know what style you’re looking for? I recommend doing some research into photographic styles so you can define what you want. If you can’t find anyone on WW, I’d check out Thumbtack or Facebook.

Hope this helps! Sending positive vibes your way!

What is your budget? Can you quote a wedding coordinator? It might be worth it! And it’s also normal to have highs and lows throughout the process. I promise it’s all worth it in the end!!! I almost broke down sooooo many times. You’re not alone.

if you can’t do the wedding coordinator, start one step at a time. Begin with the photographer and get that closed up (they sell out the quickest). Bridesmaids don’t need to buy a dress until 3-4 months out so depending on when your wedding is, you might still have time. Flowers are important but if you’re on a budget you can look at Costco flowers

Where are you located?? Maybe someone on here can give you a photographer rec? Don't stress. I got engaged right after I graduated college. At the beginning of my planning, I was in the process of moving and starting my first "big girl" job. Right now I'm studying to get my licenses and designations. I'm taking the biggest test of my life in 18 days. It can get overwhelming but if you take a little time to regroup, you should be good as new