Long Rant - Moh, am i in the wrong?

So before I get into the tea (lol) I just want to say my main question is, am I being a bridezilla with this or am I in the rights to be upset over this? ALSO full disclosure when I say upset I don't mean I'm like crying and screaming over this lol, my feelings are just super hurt.



SOOOO my FH & I have been engaged since November 2017 and from the beginning we were very vocal about our wedding being April 2020. My MOH was fully aware she would be my MOH but I still wanted to be cute and "ask". I officially asked her when we went wedding dress shopping for me & all was grand. I was ALWAYS ready to talk wedding (I have a background in weddings so I'm OVER THE MOON to finally be planning for myself) with her but it would always turn into how my ideas were bad or the subject would be completely flipped into something about her. Fine whatever I stopped talking most wedding planning stuff with her. THEN we needed to talk about a dress for her! For me it was a big deal to pick out a dress that was truly affordable (my goal was nothing over $100, but cheaper the better lol) for everyone and the one I wanted her to wear was $80. Well she threw the biggest fit over the price so I then offered to pay half, thennnn she had this story on how she didnt want to show her arms because shes very insecure about them (I've known her for 8 years and she has literally never been insecure about her arms, and she is like couture model fit) so she picked out a dress that was COMPLETELY opposite of what I wanted, long sleeve, & $40. What STILL irritates me to this day about this dress was when she was going on and on about hating her arms and showing them she was wearing a freaking spaghetti strapped top 😑 - but I AM NOT the confrontational type so I said nothing. Flash forward to having this dress in our hands and now she is going to ALTER THE SLEEVES to show her arms & I'm still paranoid this dress throws off the other two 🤦🏽‍♀️. But fine whatever I'm really not going to let a dress ruin my day.
NEXT we start talking about the bachelorette (probably started talking about this 18+ months out from the wedding). I wanted to do a mini girls trip to either Vegas or San Diego and that's what I've said since day one! She agreed on Vegas because she's never been & thinks that would be the best location for a bachelorette. While we were at lunch one time I brought it back up because I hadn't heard anything since and she flipped her lid on me & then was trying to convince me to keep it local because it "didnt fit" her schedule. So I dropped it again. We are now 4ish months out from my wedding and at this point I was getting butthurt that no one had done any planning for my bachelorette so I planned it my self!!!! I asked all the girls their opinion, gave prices, options, etc. & we landed on a mini weekend in Vegas. MOH agreed to it and all has been fine with that, but I'm like hella hurt that she didnt bother to try and plan anything for me and fought me at just about every corner.
NOWWWWW she is engaged (as of maybe 2ish weeks?) and DO NOT get me wrong I am SUPER EXCITED for her and her FH but now I'm over here even more pissed because she has done nothing but talk and want help with her engagement photos, wedding planning and... HER BACHELORETTE. My first question after screaming with excitement and such (lol) was when were they going to get married. OCTOBER 2022. My problem is WHY on God's green earth are we planning HER bachelorette party now when MY WEDDING is in FOUR MONTHS. & my bachelorette is now in 2 months! LIKE WHAT EVEN IS THIS!?!?
If you've managed to read this entire rant bless you & thank you for coming to my ted talk lol 💞. Just really needed to rant about this to someone other than my FH & other bridesmaids 😅😅.