Long Last Name.. Help!

I have two middles so I have a really long name too. While it sucks having a such a long name, it has been this way my whole life. To avoid hurting his dad, I would probably just take his full last name.

I had 17 letters in my maiden last names. My parents gave me both of there last names, but didn't hyphenate them. This gave me some flexibility and I just used one last name socially but both on legal docs etc.

It's your names so I feel you should do as you please. Having a super long last name can be a pain - I feel it because my current last name is on the long and unusual side. All my life having to spell it out was a chore

I think the only person who should get a vote in what name to take (or not take) is the person who will be using that name. Future spouse can have input but not really a vote. And that means future in-laws really don't get a vote. So, what do YOU want to do? What does your FS want?

Your name is not any of his father's business! It's bad enough when a FI insists on his future wife taking his name. (If you don't get to choose his name, he doesn't get to choose yours.) But having other family members jumping into the fray is ridiculous. Choose something that works for you, and leave his father out of it.

Base it on what you and your FH want to do, rather than what his parents want. My friends who were in the same situation decided to take just part of the husband's last name (they basically went from Katie Brown and Robert Smith-Jones to Katie and Robert Jones). So if you want to take one of his names, go for it. If you both want to take your last name, go for it. If you want to each keep your last name or have you take the full hyphenated last name, fine as well! But don't worry about his dad getting upset - it's not his decision and he will have to get over it.

If I were in this situation I probably just wouldn't change my name.

I would find something that you and your FH want, regardless of who's feelings it may hurt. Someone will always be butthurt about those things, so its best to stick to what you want.

It’s not up to his father... he’ll get over it. It’s up to you and only you as to what lastname you take. Keep your own or deal with a hyphenated name. If you both plan on shortening it then stick to it. Don’t let others bully you.

Another option to shorten his name would be for both of you to choose one name and then he adds the other as a middle name for himself. That way he will still retain his name.