Long Distance Bridal Shower Ideas Needed!

She's not old school, she's right. But that's where it ends. They need to do this without any input from you or her besides addresses.

If they haven't offered, you can't ask them to offer. There really isn't a polite way to bring this up to them, unfortunately.

I agree with RATR, you can't ask them to. If they offer great, but a shower is not a requirement.

I have the same problem. My MOH found virtual bridal showers online and set one up. There's different tabs for advice, recipes, games, etc. I don't know how well it will go over but the website is super cute and she worked hard on it.

Unfortunately if they haven't offered to throw you a shower then you're not getting a shower. It sounds like they're already going to be spending a lot on travel, so it's more than understandable.

"his mom has offered to throw me a separate shower at her house so she can invite her friends and family that most likely won't make it to our wedding" And just make sure that she doesn't invite anyone to the shower who won't be invited to the wedding, that would be rude.

There's nothing wrong with your mom throwing the shower. I slightly disagree with Celia on this one, and although i do agree that you the bride shouldn't be the one to ask anyone to throw the shower, I think its perfectly acceptable for your mom to throw a shower, if she truly thinks you should have one. (However, you shouldn't say to your mom- why don't you just throw it mom?")---it has to come from her...

As far as the out of state bridesmaids, 1 of mine (plus me) were out of state from the others--hometown is also Sunny southern CA--was living in Atlanta at the time. My mom/sister prompted the bridal shower but I had asked them to have it the weekend that my friend from DC was going to be home in CA for Christmas, so she wouldn't have to travel again. So not sure if your bridesmaids and you are all from the same hometown and there'll be a time that they will already be home.. but its an option...

If not... at least you know you're getting 1 shower!! As for inviting them to the wedding, if you're not dictating the shower list...technically you don't HAVE to invite them to your wedding...

Tagging along on this post because I'm in a similar situation. Mom and sisters (who are bridesmaids) still live in my hometown and keep insisting that they need to throw me a shower (I really feel you on the "bridezilla on my behalf" comment!), and I don't want to ask anyone to travel more...

They are too spread out. My bms are in 6 stated but all in the south east and most live in or from Florida so it will just be a trip home. My moh is throwing it, only the bms that can be involve and will travel are partocipating.

I also have "long distance" bridesmaids so one of their moms (also a close family friend) is hosting a shower for me in our hometown. Half of my bridesmaids are high school friends who will help with the shower but I don't expect my other bridesmaids to fly to Iowa for it. It's a lot to ask your bridesmaids to pay for plane tickets and hotel rooms on top of throwing you a shower when they're already traveling for your wedding and bachelorette.